Acknowledge the Good in Others
Rajendran is a highly reputed officer working in a government office approached Naran.
Rajendran: I have a problem with my neighbour, who lives above my flat. Water is leaking from his bathroom and seeps in to mine. The house owner is not willing to fix that.
Naran: Is he a bad person.
Rajendran: Interestingly, he is an exemplary in all his activities – especially inside our apartment complex. He has made lot of improvements in our complex. Therefore, every one likes him. Yet I don’t know why he doesn’t want to fix the issue in his bathroom.
Naran: Do me a favour. Write all the good qualities he has and send it to him, without complaining about his bathroom and let me know what happens.
Rajendran did as Naran suggested. He got a reply from his neighbour apologising for not fixing the issue. He went ahead and fixed the issue.
Children given constant, positive feedback will groom to be better children, than the ones constantly criticized by his parents
Circle of Goodness
In the Babemba tribe of South Africa, when a person acts unjustly or irresponsibly, he is placed in the centre of the village, alone and unfettered.
All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual. Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the centre of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted.
This tribal ceremony lasts for several days.
At the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe.
– From the book, “The art of forgiveness, Loving kindness and Peace”