Rama to be crowned
Dasaratha, the King of Ayodhya, decided to install his son Sri Rama as the Crown Prince. All the people whole-heartedly accepted it. The whole of Ayodhya went into rapturous joy. Singing and dancing, all were discussing about Rama becoming the King.
While the whole world was happy and celebrating, there was darkness in one chamber. It was Kaikeyi’s. She is the second wife of Dasaratha.
Kaikeyi Passes the Evil Message to Rama
Rama got the message that Dasaratha wanted to meet him. So he hurried to Kaikeyi’s Apartment. He sensed the tension in the silent chamber. Rama saw his father. Beside him Kaikeyi stood like an evil spirit.
Rama prostrated at the feet of Dasaratha. Then he moved towards Kaikeyi, who moved away from him like an insane person. The king did not speak a word. His eyes were shedding tears and remaining shut. He just said “Rama” in a broken voice and tears escaped from his eyes.
Rama was confused. He said to Kaikeyi, “Have I done anything to annoy my father? Or is he unwell? I should not ask this – did you both quarreled?”
Kaikeyi said, “There is nothing wrong with you. He wanted to tell you something but he dare not. Therefore, I will tell you. Long before, your father gave me two boons. Last night when I asked him to honour it, he was not ready.”
Rama wondered at the harshness of Kaikeyi. There was so much malice in her tone. She said “Rama, if you can fulfill your father’s promises. I will tell you what I asked him for”.
“Why do you ask me? I will do anything to keep my father’s word. I will honour it – whatever it may be”.
Kaikeyi said “I want Bharatha to be crowned, instead of you. You should spend fourteen years in the forest, dressed like a rishi”.
Rama Agrees to Honour His Father’s Words
Without a moment of hesitation, Rama said,” Yes definitely I will go to the forest. Why is there such a conflict over this? Please send messengers at once to bring Bharatha. I am happy to see Bharatha crowned.”
Kaikeyi said in a cold voice, “Leave that to me. When Bharatha comes, you need not be here. As long as you are here, your father will not crown Bharatha. The sooner you leave, the better it is.”
Dasaratha swooned. Rama sprang to him. Now Rama’s eyes were full and he said quietly, “Father, you have not understood me. You could have asked me yourself. I would have gone happily then. It pains me that you have doubted my love for you. I will go at once. I will not come back for 14 years. I just want to see my mother Kaushalya and convince her that this is not a tragedy but a divine order. For me, the god’s grace has unfolded in this manner.”
Then he touched Kaikeyi’s feet and quickly walked out of the room. Behind him, he heard his father break down calling “Rama” several times and sobbing like a child.
Lakshmana Gets Angry
Lakshmana who accompanied Rama became angry and hot tears came out of him like a river. Rama just put his hand around his shoulders and consoled him.
His face became more radiant. There was no sorrow and no disappointment on his face now. Determination and the will to do anything vibrated through him. He became more handsome.
Rama Consoles His Mother
Rama explained everything to his mother Kaushalya, who spent the whole night in prayer. Kaushalya broke down and said, “Rama when you were born, I thought Gods have blessed me. I never enjoyed the love of your father. I was neglected by him. Since then you are the light of my days. I cannot live without seeing your face, Rama.”
Her frail figure shook with sobbing. Her lip was uttering “Rama, Rama”.
Rama’s Mother Bless Him
Finally, she accepted for Rama’s departure and blessed him. “In all the fourteen years of your life in the forest, be sure that Dharma (the divine order) and Satyam (truth) will always be with you. You will always be surrounded and protected by them and the Divinity”.
Rama prostrated to her and left her. Lakshmana then shouted, “I will not allow this. A king should think of what is good for the kingdom and not what suits his favorite wife. I will just kill him as well as Kaikeyi.”
Rama remained silent. He let him vent his grief, knowing it was sorrow that was expressed as anger and threat.
Rama Explains Speaks About Total Acceptance
You know about Vairagya (determination). We sat at Guru’s feet and learnt. We should implement in life, what we learnt. Love for me should not resort to violence. Violence is never Dharma.
You have to help me by letting me go in peace. Anger and grief will make us stagnate. When we just accept the Divine order, our life is taken care of by the divine. Divine order is the one, which makes our destiny.
It is not that Mother Kaikeyi is evil or that she hates me. Only that Divine order uses her, even against Kaikeyi’s own nature. Do you know she is the most wounded of all!
Calm yourself. When disappointment strikes you, think with your intellect and not with your burning emotional part. What is next?
Accept everything that comes to you. When you accept, you will find innumerable ways to live and do things. While resisting, all the life doors are closed.
Acceptance is nothing but surrendering. Surrender! Surrendering alone can allow divine to work for you. When divinity takes care of your life, you are the most fortunate.
How to attain Peace and Harmony
Whether you agree or disagree with me, just observe what happens around you. Whatever is happening right now is what you need at this moment, because every scene in the drama of life is preparation for the next scene.
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- Reflect on your life.
- Find in what situation you blamed others. Forgive them.
Who is the controller of your life?
Is it me? You cannot control your life. If you fall down you will have to go to the hospital. I do not have control. Then what is the meaning of this statement. When I surrender to the Divinity only, I will take control of my life.
Let us go deeper now. I am not the doer and Divine is the doer. This we will accept lovingly.
Here we have to cultivate the habit that you are not the doer. What happens when I am the doer? Everything will be wrong then. But everything goes right when you think that Divine is the doer. When you think that Divine is the doer, there will be surrender.
A tendency to blame others
We always have the tendency to blame others. We say, “I didn’t have proper sleep because my wife always disturbs me,” When there is no power supply we blame the government. When I am hurt in an accident, we say, “I was properly walking but that auto fellow came and hit me”.
In ordinary life, for each and every situation or event we will be blaming others. Who is spoiling me in my life? When you blame others you have to remember that he is also not the doer. Nobody is responsible for this.
When I am not the doer we happily accept that. When your work is blocked or delayed, the divine is waiting for the right time and he is the doer. When you bring this thinking you can take control of your life.
“My Mother is the cause of my husband’s death”, a case history
One mother and daughter are there. Daughter is married and more than 45 years old, living in a foreign country. About five years back her father expired. The mother has three daughters and all are away.
Mother used to disturb the daughters telling that somebody has to come and look after her. In their caste only the daughter has to look after the mother it seems. I asked the daughter to cut the cord (between the mother and her).
One day, the mother asked the daughter, “Suppose if your husband dies, whether you will come back to me”. The son-in-law died after three months. From then on the daughter could not forgive her mother at all. Whenever she sees her mother she becomes angry. But that lady is a philosophical lady.
The daughter came to me and told that even after taking the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Willow she could not be alright. I told her that Holly and Willow say to you that you have to change your attitude.
When you say that you are not the doer, then you think that your mother is also not the doer. Keep chanting. “I am not the doer, she is not the doer and Divine is the doer”. After chanting this for one hour her heart became lighter. For the next two days she was chanting this and she became completely alright.
Till such time you are blaming others you are not in control of your life. So, whatever may be the problem, think that the Divine is the doer! The problem will be solved automatically. Then only you can take control of your life.
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I had been trying out all the mantras and switch words you had suggested to me. I had been religiously taking the remedies you had recommended. Yet I am not seeing the results I want.
I still don’t have a good job. My marriage is in shambles. Neither my parents nor my in-laws are happy about me.
Luckily, I am yet to have kids. Otherwise, I am afraid they will be cursing me too.
My simple question to you is, “Why can’t I be happy and lead a satisfactory life-like others?”
Sorry! I am feeling very skeptical here and feeling much disappointed too.
A Few questions to you first
What is “Thanks”?
What is “Acceptance”?
Why should we accept everything totally – whether what is happening in our life is to our liking or not?
When I am lucky…
I get what I want.
I thank the Divine.
But I forget to pray for others who have not got because of my getting.
When I am not lucky…
But, I am denied.
I feel sad or angry instead of thanking for not getting what I want.
In other words, I am resenting the gift to someone.
This sadness of anger over my not getting is truly resenting others and denying the Divine Order by violating the quantum law: “All is one. One is all”.
Why can’t I be unhappy, when I fail, you may ask?
When I resent or feel sad, I cannot receive when my turn comes (yes! it comes to you one day for sure).
Therefore, when I am denied, I accept and thank god for giving to someone.
I thank God, because my prayers got someone what he wanted.
Denial to me is a gift to someone who needs more than me.
So I Thank the Divine
Let me feel happy about it.
Let me accept it.
With OPEN HEART and QUIET MIND, I ACCEPT and THANK the DIVINE for anything and everything in my life.
I thank when I receive.
I thank when I am denied, while others receive.
So I Thank the Divine in Advance, for one day, my wants will be fulfilled, my prayers will be answered, and I will receive the gifts I desire as I have understood today that my acceptance and attitude of gratitude at any stage will get me everything, when my turn comes.
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Understand the messages with the help of Bach Flower Remedies
Take Bach Flower Remedies VERVAIN and HEATHER to understand those messages.
Put the pills of Vervain and Heather in a bottle of water. Take it with you.
Visit your neighboring park and with a research attitude note down all the words that you hear.
Sip the water now and then.
All words that you have captured, will give you a beautiful meaning to your life.
Alternatively, go to a temple and listen to the conversations that are going around.
Do this exercise, once in two months.
There are always three view points to an event
An event can be in the form of an incident or a conversation that we overhear or behavior of a person that we are attracted to and notice.
For an event, there can be three different viewpoints about it.
One is ours. When we analyze from our viewpoint, then it will be termed as a judgment about the event.
When we analyze from other man’s point of view, then it will be termed as an understanding of the event.
Finally, the third perspective would be the viewpoint of the divinity that’s expressed through the event.
The last viewpoint is the subject of our discussion.
Why we need to know divine messages behind an event?
There will be a lesson waiting for us, on how we should think and act, so that our journey moves towards divinity. To do that, we have to observe our life as a third person.
These divine messages also can come from children or sometimes even at the sight of a bird or an animal.
Do a bit of an analysis
If we listen dispassionately to a conversation that falls into our ears, there will be a divine message waiting for us.
Though, we have to do a bit of analysis and dig that message out.
Do that by asking the question – what is the divine message waiting for me here to be unraveled?
Analyzing like this is nothing but a form of meditation.
This helps us to go deeper within one self, making the mind travel within.
In general, the mind has the tendency to go out. But this exercise helps us to take it the reverse direction.
Therefore, a dispassionate observation is a must for us to follow.
Let you be guided by divine messages every day in every way
Divine message guides us in every way.
Daily seeking the message of God and keeping a Spiritual Journal is necessary.
This will help us to understand the messages delivered by god and direct us in various ways during the course of our lives.
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There is always a saying that marriages are made in heaven. Is that true?
And if so then why there is negativity like divorce, extramarital, and even more than that?
I am very much afraid of this issue as it’s a lifelong decision and relationship.
Is there any switch word which all can chant to have a successful, happy and respected marital life either love or arranged.
Any switch words that can keep harmony not only in couple but also between two families because sometimes we see that due to family distances, fights arise.
And also anything after which there should not be any regression about marriage decision?
I know you are the only one who can clear my questions and hope so many people wants know it.
Fear is hallucination.
Fearing about something is happening in the mind only.
The mind is unable to perceive the future and therefore indulges in thoughts that produce fear.
Instead of becoming inquisitive, the mind pushes you in fear or in darkness.
What is this fear? Fear manifests the very same event which we do not want.
Understand that every emotion has got individual consciousness.
Fear is born because future is unknown. Anything unknown is darkness. Darkness – fear – will be no more, when there is light.
When the fear appears, think that it needs light. Say, “Fear SET FREE, OPEN, ALIGN yourself with the LIGHT and RELAX me.”
Read again and again all the answers and blog postings and meditate on each and every answer.
You will know everything that you need to know.
Too much of thoughts – unwanted thoughts – obsess you and you have forgotten to listen. Listening happens when we become silent and Truth will reveal itself when we introspect.
It is not my reply but your understanding is more important.
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How to deserve more respect in your life?
Do the following:
1. Reflect on your life. How much respect you are giving to others?
2. Are you able to respect one and all?
Weigh the amount of respect you give to others
Reflect on your life and find out how much respect you are giving to others.
What is the meaning of respect? It is not that you should get up from the chair, when someone comes. It is the humanitarian aspect, I am talking about.
A millionaire shows his respect to his driver, a case history
I received an email recently. A person was working as a driver for a multi-millionaire in Pune, for more than 30 years.
When the boss was in Mumbai he received a message that his driver passed away. He replied asking not to dispose of the driver’s body until he arrives at the funeral proceedings. After reaching Pune, the millionaire put the driver’s body in his car, and he drove the car himself to the burial ground.
This, I would call showing the right RESPECT.
Roles do not define a person
We are always playing different roles. I deserve respect means, as a human being I need respect and not for the role I am playing.
If you are an MD of a corporate then anybody will give you respect. We find the same situation in government offices. A peon will be saluting to his officer until he retires. But, when the officer retires and comes back to the office to draw his pension that time the peon will not even bother to have a look at him.
To know the equality of a human being is respect. But what we generally do? We say, “He is a cleaner”, or “He is a driver” and keep people at a distance. However, by keeping them at a distance we are preventing ourselves from the flow of love.
How to give respect to others
1. You think in these aspects and find where all we expect respect.
2. ‘All humans are equal’ is the only way we can give respect and take respect. Find out whether we can give respect to all, this way.
Treat everybody humanly
If you think the other person is my husband/wife then only quarrel will be present. Instead, if you think that the other person is also a human being then we will start giving them love and respect.
If you get the understanding that you and I are one, then only love will start pouring in our lives. Only that attitude will bring more love for you. In addition, you will find more time to love yourselves.
Posted in Life
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