A Story about Happiness and of course Sadness…!!!
His friend asked him, “Why are you sad?”
Mullah replied, “My uncle died a month ago. He has willed his property to me. I just thought about it and feel sad”.
“What a fool you are? He was eighty when he died. Moreover, all his property is yours now. Instead of being happy, why should you feel sad and weep?”
“No! No! The matter is different. Last week, another uncle of mine died and he also has written his property in my name”.
“So what. Now, you should be doubly happy. He is also as old as this uncle. There is nothing to mourn or loathe. Cheer up yourself”.
“Shall I tell you one more thing?”
“Please go ahead”.
“My grand father who was ninety years old died yesterday, after giving Rs. 2 lakhs to me”.
Greatly angered the friend replied, “I don’t understand the reason for your sadness then”.
Wiping his tears, Mullah said, “All my rich relatives had died. Now, there is nobody among my relatives old enough to die and give his property to me”.
This is the mentality of a negative (Bach Flower) Gentian person. His mind is not happy about what he gets. The Gentian mind feels sad about what he has not got.
In this world there are four rules:
- You don’t get what you desire or what you want.
- You get what you don’t desire or what you don’t want.
In between these two rules, how to create what we want?
- To get what you want, accept what you get. When you accept what you get, you like what you get.
- When you like what you get, you get what you want.
A case history
My in-laws came here last Sunday. From the day they came here, my three-year old daughter Hema wants all her work to be done by my mother in-law. That actually doesn’t bother me.
However, I like to sleep with Hema. It so happened today that she wants to sleep with my MIL, instead of sleeping with me. I felt really bad that Hema does not understand my feelings and is avoiding me. I felt, ‘Am I not giving enough love to her?”
My MIL feels really happy when Hema ignores me and says that she wants to be with my in-laws.
Now I’m hurt that Hema is totally ignoring me and doesn’t want to sleep with me!
There is no motive for any child to behave rudely. It is natural that all the children want to be with their grand parents. Go to my blog and read the story of Mangala on Bach Flower CD: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/04/24/meditation-on-bach-flowers/
Allow the child to be as she is. The more and more you want your child to be with you, at the same time have a grudge against your mother in law the child will be drawn to her only.
- Chant the switch words, “Together Divine”
- Also, take the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Chicory. Give it to your MIL also. Put Walnut and Willow in the common water.
- Tap on yourself (all the points) continuously whenever you find time and affirm, “I accept totally what is happening to me. Love Thanks Divine.”
Suffering mentally is optional. Whenever we accept what is happening, we get a new meaning to our life and at the same time, whatever we wish will happen automatically.
When my MIL laughs and speaks that my kid is very much attached to her rather than me, then I get the grudge on her. She has once told our family members, in front of me, that she wants my kid to be attached to her rather than me. I was hurt with her words. You may think that I’m blaming her. This is the fact and this is how she spoke.
Anyhow let me try chanting the affirmations and let you know.
What we do normally when we are wounded or hurt. We may grudge, blame, curse dislike and become furious. All these emotions get outside our auric field, get clogged in the atmosphere and influence or affect us because we draw the same energy from the atmosphere.
Moreover constant and consistent undesirable emotions of this type may travel and join similar emotions in the world, paving way for violence, murder etc. Thus, we contribute indirectly to the violent world outside. Do you want to hold on to these emotions?
Another way is just to accept and ignore wherever possible, the comments made by your MIL.
Affirm to yourself, “Hurting others is her (MIL) nature. Loving and becoming lovable (whatever may be the provocation) is my nature”. If you practise this (very difficult), she will also change.
Changing yourself should be your goal. Take it as a challenge.
Do a lot of forgiving exercise. This will give you more power.
Take the remedies. You will understand.
Handling Problems with ‘I am sorry mantra’
Think about the problem or write the problem in a piece of paper and close it with both hands. Then affirm, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, Divine”. We will come out of the current state of mind. Then the solution will appear automatically and effortlessly as well.
Was about to be fired – a Case History
Sri is a software engineer, who was on the firing list. His manager warned him and told him to somehow get into a project. He chanted the ‘I am sorry’ mantra 20 times twice a day. Within a week they said he needs to go on a business trip to Europe and asked him to get ready for it.
He got worried that he had to go after August 28th as he had some personal function to attend on August 24th. Again he resorted to the ‘I am sorry’ mantra and he flew to Europe, exactly on August 28th.
He is now quite convinced that he can handle any problems with ‘I am sorry mantra’.
Every time we forgive someone,
We talk the language of God
We activate our own divine part.
It also helps others to see us in a new light.
If there is no forgiveness, then there is no understanding.
If there is no understanding, then there is no healing.
If there is no healing, then you will remain incomplete forever.
Deepa told me few months back, “My husband is a rogue. I want to divorce him. How can I compromise on this issue?”
- I gave her Bach Flower Remedies Rescue Remedy and Holy.
- I asked her to do the acceptance Mudra and do the affirmations. Please check the link:
- I asked her to affirm, “This is how god has made him. This is how god wants him to behave. With him, there is something I need to learn.” The very statement may appear simple. But, it works very well with couples.
- I also asked her to affirm, “This is how god has made me. Let me not interfere with Divine Will. I am happy to accept God’s Will and Divine Order from today”.
Acceptance will come when you understand there is a divine purpose behind everything and if we do not to interfere with the Divine Order. When you accept, automatically a new pattern of thinking will come and you will feel a new surge of energy.
Change in you will change the other person. We only need to have patience and acceptance. Then alone we can adjust to our circumstances. Life is nothing but adjustment and comprise. That’s the Bach Flower Remedy Walnut! (Take Walnut or chant the Switch Word ‘Adjust’)
Feedback from Deepa
“Till today I feel alright. I have become a new person. I could accept my husband as he is”.
Naran S. Balakumar: Whenever she meets me, she used to say, “These affirmations are so divine that the moment I think about them, unusual peace dawns on me and all my anger vanishes.”
We had to vacate the house that we had been staying for last 6 years. My husband wanted a house close to his office, while I wanted something closer to where we are living now. Therefore, he wanted me to make some adjustment.
During the house search when I was getting down the stairs of a house, I tripped and fell down. I developed pain in my thigh! This was disturbing my mind. I knew the cause based on the theories you taught on mind-body intelligence. I cursed myself for forgetting to thank the house before entering it.
We went to the same house this weekend. This time I thanked the house before entering it. The house looked beautiful and perfect. I fell in love with it. The rent is little over our budget. We are hoping that the house owner will agree to our price.
Naran S. Balakumar
It is nice to know that you are becoming sensitive to the body. For the others to come to our terms, chant the Bach Flower Remedies Mimulus and Walnut. Alternatively, write the names of the flowers in a piece of paper and keep it with you. Walnut is for adjustment!
Wherever we go, we should be ready to pay the price that it deserves. However, if there is budget constraint, call Wolf and ask the animal spirit to get you a nice good house that is well within your budget. Once the work is over, thank God profusely from the heart for guiding you through nature. You can do this even before you occupy the house.
A house definitely is out there, which suits your budget and taste. Pray that you should find it. “Together Find Divine Order Now Done” – SwitchWords can accomplish that for you. For that matter, you can achieve anything through prayers.
“When I was getting down the stairs I tripped and fell down.”
Coming down is a problem for you. You are worried that you will lose control. There is nothing wrong to go beyond one’s ego. Your ego and pride is creating blocks for you.
Surprisingly, the inner or spiritual meaning of coming down is adjustment. Adjustment and compromise will open the doors for the universal love to operate. When it operates, loving people will always surround our lives. We will attract those who love us. The key word for Walnut is “adjust”. Alternatively, you can chant the SwitchWord Adjust.
Walnut alone can open your heart. There is no limit for the opening of the heart.
For various articles on Bach Flower Remedies, please click the link: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?cat_id=50 and for more information on Animal Spirit Guides, please check: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?page=1&cat_id=49