Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
(Extracted From the book – ‘I Love Myself Workbook’)
- Reflect on this – ‘Love is the True Reality’.
- Ask the questions, “Why” and “How”.
- Think why and how.
- When you ask the question “Why”, you must get an answer.
- Then ask the other question “How”?
Why and How Love is the true reality?
You have to do them leisurely. You must ask the question – “Why love is the true reality?” All of us want to be loved first. At that time, self is longing for love. If you see the world, you will know how it has become true.
To understand essence of “I love myself” I have given you this exercise.
We are all connected
We are having our lunch, that food is cooked by some body, somebody is ordering this food. So how many people’s energy is there in the food?
Somebody is ordering the food to the owner. So he is also connected with the food.
It is connected to the cook, and the packers.
It is connected to the transporter who brings the food.
If he has to come here, there should be a road which is laid by somebody and therefore it is connected to that person.
What is the menu? Let us say rice, and chapatti. So there is rice, wheat, oil etc. Wheat is grown by somebody and sold by somebody.
From there, who brings the wheat and rice to the public?
Not make me feel hungry, so many people are working and so many people are connected. It is the intention of the divine that you should not go hungry which made so many people to work for you.
Do everything with Love
So that is the reality. Whether all of them work with love or not, is a different question!
But what is the motivating factor behind all their work. Is it Divine the motivating force or the love of the Divine that is making all these people work for you?
We pay the price for this. So you pay it with gratitude. Instead we try to bargain when we want to pay someone. When we go to big shops we pay whatever they say. However, when a person brings green vegetables to our home, we bargain.
It happens because of Love
If we understand “Love is true reality” we will not make such mistakes. Everything is moved in this world because of love. Nothing else other than love moves this world.
If we know this, we definitely will start giving love and we will be definitely be loved by all.
Everything is connected with the web of life – the Divine Web of Love.
We ignore our body, yet it loves us
When a child is born, the date and time is fixed by the Divine.
All the organs of the body, what do they do? They work properly for some time. If we commit some mistake the organ gives us some pain. But it will somehow try to help us.
So, if the body is not there, we are not here. However, we are not giving respect to the body that it deserves. This includes me too.
If we understand that love is the true reality, we can understand how much our body loves us. Somehow it balances, in spite of our mistakes.
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Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
My husband has been having extra marital affairs with many women (about 14 to date) for the past 12 years. He gets into a rage when I question him. He sees 3 women on diff days. He makes me miserable and depressed.
He runs his own business. All his customers/friends cover up and book the hotels on their name for him. He tells me he is at a meeting but goes and sleeps with women.
He has divorced me last year and blames me all the time but we are living together for my kids’ sake. He compares me to other women and makes me insecure. He tells me that he can find many super models and sleep with them and I can’t do anything because we are divorced.
I got nothing; I resigned from work last year because I had a nervous breakdown. He is having a complete makeover even to the extent of skin whitening. My in-laws hate me and they’ve been doing black magic to me because they want everything I worked hard for. They are responsible for him being that way. They encourage him to do wrong and they turn my kids against me. My mother-in-law puts things in the food for us to fight but my ex doesn’t see it.
I pray so hard for all those women to get caught with him but I feel I’m not winning. All I want is my husband, kids, peace and happiness back. He must stop sleeping around. Pls help me.
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
“Will I not win?” Win yourself first. Win your emotions and thoughts first. Evolve with higher emotions. You will win.
Life is not a war to win or lose. Life is love – giving and receiving – transaction of love. Give even when you don’t receive. Think anything as an issue to be handled with love. Bring peace to the war going on within.
This alone will help you. Concentrate on something else.
Chant “QUIET MIND, OPEN HEART, RELAX”, daily 1000 times.
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