Why can’t I be happy?

Client

I had been trying out all the mantras and switch words you had suggested to me. I had been religiously taking the remedies you had recommended. Yet I am not seeing the results I want.

I still don’t have a good job.  My marriage is in shambles. Neither my parents nor my in-laws are happy about me.

Luckily, I am yet to have kids. Otherwise, I am afraid they will be cursing me too.

My simple question to you is, “Why can’t I be happy and lead a satisfactory life-like others?”

Sorry! I am feeling very skeptical here and feeling much disappointed too.

Naran

A Few questions to you first

What is “Thanks”?

What is “Acceptance”?

Why should we accept everything totally – whether what is happening in our life is to our liking or not?

When I am lucky…

I want.

I pray.

I get what I want.

I thank the Divine.

But I forget to pray for others who have not got because of my getting.

When I am not lucky…

I want.

I pray.

But, I am denied.

I feel sad or angry instead of thanking for not getting what I want.

In other words, I am resenting the gift to someone.

This sadness of anger over my not getting is truly resenting others and denying the Divine Order by violating the quantum law:  “All is one. One is all”.

Why can’t I be unhappy, when I fail, you may ask?

When I resent or feel sad, I cannot receive when my turn comes (yes! it comes to you one day for sure).

Therefore, when I am denied, I accept and thank god for giving to someone.

I thank God, because my prayers got someone what he wanted.

Denial to me is a gift to someone who needs more than me.

So I Thank the Divine

Let me feel happy about it.

Let me accept it.

With OPEN HEART and QUIET MIND, I ACCEPT and THANK the DIVINE for anything and everything in my life.

I thank when I receive.

I thank when I am denied, while others receive.

So I Thank the Divine in Advance, for one day, my wants will be fulfilled, my prayers will be answered, and I will receive the gifts I desire as I have understood today that my acceptance and attitude of gratitude at any stage will get me everything, when my turn comes.

Art of Reading Divine Messages

Understand the messages with the help of Bach Flower Remedies

Take Bach Flower Remedies VERVAIN and HEATHER to understand those messages.

Put the pills of Vervain and Heather in a bottle of water.  Take it with you.

Visit your neighboring park and with a research attitude note down all the words that you hear.

Sip the water now and then.

All words that you have captured, will give you a beautiful meaning to your life.

Alternatively, go to a temple and listen to the conversations that are going around.

Do this exercise, once in two months.

There are always three view points to an event

An event can be in the form of an incident or a conversation that we overhear or behavior of a person that we are attracted to and notice.

For an event, there can be three different viewpoints about it.

One is ours. When we analyze from our viewpoint, then it will be termed as a judgment about the event.

When we analyze from other man’s point of view, then it will be termed as an understanding of the event.

Finally, the third perspective would be the viewpoint of the divinity that’s expressed through the event.

The last viewpoint is the subject of our discussion.

Why we need to know divine messages behind an event?

There will be a lesson waiting for us, on how we should think and act, so that our journey moves towards divinity. To do that, we have to observe our life as a third person.

These divine messages also can come from children or sometimes even at the sight of a bird or an animal.

Do a bit of an analysis

If we listen dispassionately to a conversation that falls into our ears, there will be a divine message waiting for us.

Though, we have to do a bit of analysis and dig that message out.

Do that by asking the question – what is the divine message waiting for me here to be unraveled?

Analyzing like this is nothing but a form of meditation.

This helps us to go deeper within one self, making the mind travel within.

In general, the mind has the tendency to go out. But this exercise helps us to take it the reverse direction.

Therefore, a dispassionate observation is a must for us to follow.

Let you be guided by divine messages every day in every way

Divine message guides us in every way.

Daily seeking the message of God and keeping a Spiritual Journal is necessary.

This will help us to understand the messages delivered by god and direct us in various ways during the course of our lives.

Inappropriate Love

Grace

Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.

Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!

I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.

Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for this man.

Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.

Grace

Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!

Naran

Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).

Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.

You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.

Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.

Grace

I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.

I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.

Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace

Naran

A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.

I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.

Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).

When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.

Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.