Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.
Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!
I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.
Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.
Do the forgiving exercise for this man.
Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.
Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!
Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).
Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.
You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.
Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.
I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.
I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.
Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace
A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.
I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.
Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).
When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.
Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.
When you do the healing, you heal your goals. For example, you may chant the Ambika mantra on behalf of your children, isn’t it?
Yes children are our FUTURE. If they do well then it means we have done well too.
Children are our future, which means we are the PRESENT. Then who is our past?
It is our parents. Parents are our PAST.
You heal your present to heal your future. In the same way, when you heal your PAST – your parents – you heal your PRESENT, and in turn your FUTURE – yours as well as your children.
Therefore, to create a better future, don’t look forward, but look back. It is a safer and a better solution than you have so far followed in your life.
For more detailed explanation on Why we need to forgive others and How to forgive others, please refer the book: “Forgiveness How and Why”, written by Naran S. Balakumar.
I have a problem letting go or forgiving people. Is there any switch word for it?
If you don’t do the forgiving exercise, you will undergo same emotions, even though situations may be different.
If you do not want to meet or interact with same people in future, Forgiving is the only way.
There is no shortcut for letting go the resentment and anger.
Do not act from ego; have higher perception and think that every event in our life is happening as per our desire. Before taking the birth, I want this life with these people to mend my life. But unfortunately after taking birth, we forget our commitment. When the situation is created as per our desire, instead of learning lessons and moving forward, we get stuck and we refuse to forget or forgive.
What is the one that prevents you from forgiving? Release that and do it.
I Jay forgive you —–(name of the person). You please forgive me and release me. This can be done mechanically without the involvement of the heart.
Do I just have to fill the name or action that upsets me?
“I Jay forgive you —–(name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.
Take a person with whom you are angry. Insert his or her name in the space given above. Chant the same for 200 times a day.
Affirm, “I (your name) Robert forgive you Ashok (replace with name of the person to be forgiven). You please forgive me and release me”.
This can be done mechanically without the involvement of the heart.
Write a list of persons with whom you are angry. Take one person out of that list. Insert his or her name in the affirmation given above. Chant the same for 200 times a day.
Questions regarding Forgiveness Exercise
I have two queries related to Forgiving exercise.
I have too many people to forgive in my life, so please guide me how to forgive them with once for all.
I see my husband is having so much resentment in his life with so many people but he doesn’t try to do any of the exercise to forgive and forget. So is there anything I can do on behalf of him, as it’s affecting my life all the time.
- Take a list of all of them. Do the forgiving for all. Take one at a time. Chant 200 times for each.
- You cannot do anything for somebody’s sake. What is your predominant thought or emotion when you deal with him? Release that one by one. If one goes, another will come. Release that also.
We had to vacate the house that we had been staying for last 6 years. My husband wanted a house close to his office, while I wanted something closer to where we are living now. Therefore, he wanted me to make some adjustment.
During the house search when I was getting down the stairs of a house, I tripped and fell down. I developed pain in my thigh! This was disturbing my mind. I knew the cause based on the theories you taught on mind-body intelligence. I cursed myself for forgetting to thank the house before entering it.
We went to the same house this weekend. This time I thanked the house before entering it. The house looked beautiful and perfect. I fell in love with it. The rent is little over our budget. We are hoping that the house owner will agree to our price.
Naran S. Balakumar
It is nice to know that you are becoming sensitive to the body. For the others to come to our terms, chant the Bach Flower Remedies Mimulus and Walnut. Alternatively, write the names of the flowers in a piece of paper and keep it with you. Walnut is for adjustment!
Wherever we go, we should be ready to pay the price that it deserves. However, if there is budget constraint, call Wolf and ask the animal spirit to get you a nice good house that is well within your budget. Once the work is over, thank God profusely from the heart for guiding you through nature. You can do this even before you occupy the house.
A house definitely is out there, which suits your budget and taste. Pray that you should find it. “Together Find Divine Order Now Done” – SwitchWords can accomplish that for you. For that matter, you can achieve anything through prayers.
“When I was getting down the stairs I tripped and fell down.”
Coming down is a problem for you. You are worried that you will lose control. There is nothing wrong to go beyond one’s ego. Your ego and pride is creating blocks for you.
Surprisingly, the inner or spiritual meaning of coming down is adjustment. Adjustment and compromise will open the doors for the universal love to operate. When it operates, loving people will always surround our lives. We will attract those who love us. The key word for Walnut is “adjust”. Alternatively, you can chant the SwitchWord Adjust.
Walnut alone can open your heart. There is no limit for the opening of the heart.
For various articles on Bach Flower Remedies, please click the link: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?cat_id=50 and for more information on Animal Spirit Guides, please check: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?page=1&cat_id=49