“Arise Awake and Stop Not Till the Goal is Reached” – Swami Vivekananda
Who is to be blamed if there is no harmony within the family?
In any situation, when one finds oneself opposed, confronted, misunderstood, blamed or being overthrown, one either feels angry or feels depressed or worried.
What is to be tackled here – your mind or him? Everybody wants to change the other person. What is the hidden situation here?
If you want the other person to change, should you not think about changing yourself? Without ourselves changing, we cannot change others.
If there is disharmony then both are responsible for that and both have to change. This is simple logic.
How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life?
- Ask a simple question to yourself. What do I want?
- What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want?
- What behavior of mine or my action will take me – move, towards this goal?
- On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?
If you are 100% sure that your anger or resentment or longing for love, care, affection can take you to harmony or the desired goal, you can have anything.
But once you decide (Itcha Sakthi) that only my endurance or forgiveness can achieve my goal then take the appropriate action (Kriya Sakthi) that is conducive to the goal of harmony, love and understanding.
In other words, your thought, your expression, and your behavior should be conducive towards your goal.
If you think that forgiveness, love and gratitude can achieve this, bring them in your thoughts, expressions and behavior.
The disadvantages of being in a state of victim
The only thing that may interfere in your progress is your ego.
A state of mind which cannot achieve what is desired is a state of victim. Having known that this victim state cannot achieve, why do you hang on to it?
- Not knowing that my state of mind prevents me from achieving my aim is the first blunder.
- Having known that a particular state of mind – victim mentality, cannot achieve what you want and doing nothing about it is the second blunder.
Once you come to know that forgiveness alone, endurance alone, kindness and gratitude alone, can achieve what you want, then go all out for that, with full of courage and moral will.
This is what I meant when I said “BRING IN INTERNAL CHANGE”.
We may fail in the course of time. But don’t be upset over failure. Failure is just a reminder to correct our attitude and move forward.
Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.
Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!
I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.
Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.
Do the forgiving exercise for this man.
Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.
Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!
Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).
Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.
You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.
Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.
I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.
I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.
Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace
A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.
I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.
Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).
When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.
Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.
We had to vacate the house that we had been staying for last 6 years. My husband wanted a house close to his office, while I wanted something closer to where we are living now. Therefore, he wanted me to make some adjustment.
During the house search when I was getting down the stairs of a house, I tripped and fell down. I developed pain in my thigh! This was disturbing my mind. I knew the cause based on the theories you taught on mind-body intelligence. I cursed myself for forgetting to thank the house before entering it.
We went to the same house this weekend. This time I thanked the house before entering it. The house looked beautiful and perfect. I fell in love with it. The rent is little over our budget. We are hoping that the house owner will agree to our price.
Naran S. Balakumar
It is nice to know that you are becoming sensitive to the body. For the others to come to our terms, chant the Bach Flower Remedies Mimulus and Walnut. Alternatively, write the names of the flowers in a piece of paper and keep it with you. Walnut is for adjustment!
Wherever we go, we should be ready to pay the price that it deserves. However, if there is budget constraint, call Wolf and ask the animal spirit to get you a nice good house that is well within your budget. Once the work is over, thank God profusely from the heart for guiding you through nature. You can do this even before you occupy the house.
A house definitely is out there, which suits your budget and taste. Pray that you should find it. “Together Find Divine Order Now Done” – SwitchWords can accomplish that for you. For that matter, you can achieve anything through prayers.
“When I was getting down the stairs I tripped and fell down.”
Coming down is a problem for you. You are worried that you will lose control. There is nothing wrong to go beyond one’s ego. Your ego and pride is creating blocks for you.
Surprisingly, the inner or spiritual meaning of coming down is adjustment. Adjustment and compromise will open the doors for the universal love to operate. When it operates, loving people will always surround our lives. We will attract those who love us. The key word for Walnut is “adjust”. Alternatively, you can chant the SwitchWord Adjust.
Walnut alone can open your heart. There is no limit for the opening of the heart.
For various articles on Bach Flower Remedies, please click the link: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?cat_id=50 and for more information on Animal Spirit Guides, please check: http://www.naranheal.com/mudras.php?page=1&cat_id=49