This is a continuation of the post, “Ego is not tiny”: http://wp.me/p3dhkD-2k
How one can be without an ego? Unless you shed your identity, you cannot shed your ego. There is only one person who was without an ego. He was Lord Krishna.
He accepted to be the driver of the chariot (in the battle field of Kurukshetra war). We don’t know the difficulties of a driver of a chariot.
In the midst of the war, while fight is going on, you cannot give instructions to the driver, ‘Hey turn left here’ and so on. In the war, Arjuna was sitting above him. How Arjuna did convey the messages to Krishna?
He will place his leg on the left shoulder of Krishna, if the chariot has to be turned left and on the right shoulder, if the chariot has to be turned right.
If you become a chariot driver, will you accept it? However, Krishna accepted it. That is the nature of Divine beings. He did his work as a charioteer with full devotion.
Running the chariot is Karma Yoga for him. Running it with devotion is Bhakti yoga for him. Because he rode it with so much of dedication, he attained the supreme knowledge (Gnana) in driving the chariot.
That’s why His Gita is Bhagavad Gita.
When the war was over how did Arjuna behave?
That’s the difference between the lord and human beings.
After the war, he told Krishna, ‘I am the warrior. Will you please get down first?”
That’s the protocol in the war. Krishna replied to him, “War is over. You get down first”.
Arjuna got down first and then Krishna did. The moment Krishna got down from the chariot, it burst into flames. Had Krishna followed the protocol, what would have happened? Arjuna would have been killed in the flames.
TINY is the switch word which fully describes Krishna.
Switch Word from Lord Krishna: http://wp.me/ptUKY-3J
Meditation on Lord Krishna’s relationship with Khusela: http://wp.me/p12byb-4N
Harmony is wanted: http://wp.me/p3FS2t-3V
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An exercise to get the best – taken from the book – “I Love Myself’ Workbook
Ask the questions…
1. What is your purchase behavior?
2. Do you go for cheap and best?
3. Or only for the best?
Analyze your attitudes behind your purchasing habits
The funny thing is both are opposites. If you want something cheaper then you won’t get the best. Likewise, if you want the best then you won’t get it cheap either.
When will you deserve best?
I deserve the best means then you should not be influenced by anybody else’s decision. When will “I deserve the best” happen?
First, you have to find out when you give something, whether you give it without any inhibition.
4. Ask the question before you give, “Am I giving this without any inhibition?”
We discriminate in our treatment to others
When we attend a wedding, we give some presentation. Whatever we have in our house, we pack it and give it. There is so much inhibition in giving what we have received from somebody else.
Even there we may differentiate from one person to another. Like for example, we might have decided in the mind that this should be given to Mr. A, while we should give something else to Mrs. B. We also quantify while giving, like so much to Mr. A and so much to Mrs. B.
However, we should not do either of them.
Why we don’t deserve the best
Suppose we have some costly item like a silver vessel. We think that it may cost Rs.1000. But, when you weigh the vessel, we find the value to be Rs.5000. So we think this person does not deserve this much costly and therefore we will buy him something else. If these behaviors are present in us then we will not get the best and we do not deserve the best.
How to be deserving for the best
While giving, you must give with full heart. These are the tests given by the Divine. If someone asks money we must give it. But at that time we may not have so much money. At that time you may not be in a position to give him money. Then give him Reiki.
The beggar is not asking for the money, but the divine is…
The beggar may beg for some money from you. The auto driver may demand money from you. There is no difference between the two. If he asks Rs.150 for a trip then give him as the Universe wants the money to go from your hand. Instead, if you hold the amount, eventually you may have to spend 10 times the money in a different way.
Whenever it has to be given, give it. It is not the auto driver who is asking the money, it is not the beggar who is begging for the money. On the other hand, to balance between receiving and giving the Universe is asking from you.
If you develop this kind of attitude, giving will not become prohibitive to you. You will give easily and there will not be any blocks inside you.
Giving on a No-cost Basis
If we have to give at any cost then we can send Reiki by chanting “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE”.
However, do not allow others to exploit you
Giving does not mean that you should allow others to cheat you. If someone asks for donation, use your discretion. For paying the auto driver, when you travel occasionally by auto, then do not fight with him, but give him whatever he demands.
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My husband has been having extra marital affairs with many women (about 14 to date) for the past 12 years. He gets into a rage when I question him. He sees 3 women on diff days. He makes me miserable and depressed.
He runs his own business. All his customers/friends cover up and book the hotels on their name for him. He tells me he is at a meeting but goes and sleeps with women.
He has divorced me last year and blames me all the time but we are living together for my kids’ sake. He compares me to other women and makes me insecure. He tells me that he can find many super models and sleep with them and I can’t do anything because we are divorced.
I got nothing; I resigned from work last year because I had a nervous breakdown. He is having a complete makeover even to the extent of skin whitening. My in-laws hate me and they’ve been doing black magic to me because they want everything I worked hard for. They are responsible for him being that way. They encourage him to do wrong and they turn my kids against me. My mother-in-law puts things in the food for us to fight but my ex doesn’t see it.
I pray so hard for all those women to get caught with him but I feel I’m not winning. All I want is my husband, kids, peace and happiness back. He must stop sleeping around. Pls help me.
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
“Will I not win?” Win yourself first. Win your emotions and thoughts first. Evolve with higher emotions. You will win.
Life is not a war to win or lose. Life is love – giving and receiving – transaction of love. Give even when you don’t receive. Think anything as an issue to be handled with love. Bring peace to the war going on within.
This alone will help you. Concentrate on something else.
Chant “QUIET MIND, OPEN HEART, RELAX”, daily 1000 times.
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A Marriage Not a Bother Anymore
A couple approached Naran S. Balakumar for their problems seems to be never ending. They were fighting like dogs and cats.
Balakumar narrated the following story from Panchatantra and asked them to tap while listening to the story:
There lived a dog and cat in a village. They fought like hell.
One day, it was raining heavily. They took a shelter in a Mandapam (a common place for discussing and resting for travellers).
The weather was too cold for the cat. There was one blanket available. Therefore, they have no choice but to use the same blanket. They covered themselves with the blanket.
They realized that they have to be together to solve any problem in life.
The couple did the tapping for few days and they could resolve the problems between them to a greater extent.
Benefits of Listening to Story of Jada Bharatha
- When a person is hurt or wounded emotionally, the story is a great soother
- This will bring some body out of love pangs, when they have failed in love.
- If somebody has a suicidal tendency, it will give them hope and enthusiasm.
This story was discussed in the Monthly Meet, April 2009. It is available in CD.
Next Post: Stories for Life Part 3
“Rama’s Pilgrimage to the Forest” and “Zen Tea”