My child is attached to my mother-in-law

In this world there are four rules:

• You don’t get what you desire or what you want.
• You get what you don’t desire or what you don’t want.

In between these two rules, how to create what we want?

• To get what you want, accept what you get. When you accept what you get, you like what you get.
• When you like what you get, you get what you want.

A case history

Radha

My in-laws came here last Sunday. From the day they came here, my three-year old daughter Hema wants all her work to be done by my mother in-law. That actually doesn’t bother me.

However, I like to sleep with Hema. It so happened today that she wants to sleep with my MIL, instead of sleeping with me. I felt really bad that Hema does not understand my feelings and is avoiding me. I felt, ‘Am I not giving enough love to her?”

My MIL feels really happy when Hema ignores me and says that she wants to be with my in-laws.

Now I’m hurt that Hema is totally ignoring me and doesn’t want to sleep with me!

Naran

There is no motive for any child to behave rudely. It is natural that all the children want to be with their grand parents. Go to my blog and read the story of Mangala on Bach Flower CD:  http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/04/24/meditation-on-bach-flowers/

Allow the child to be as she is. The more and more you want your child to be with you, at the same time have a grudge against your mother in law the child will be drawn to her only.

• Chant the switch words, “Together Divine”
• Also, take the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Chicory. Give it to your MIL also. Put Walnut and Willow in the common water.
• Tap on yourself (all the points) continuously whenever you find time and affirm, “I accept totally what is happening to me. Love Thanks Divine.”

Suffering mentally is optional. Whenever we accept what is happening, we get a new meaning to our life and at the same time, whatever we wish will happen automatically.

Radha

When my MIL laughs and speaks that my kid is very much attached to her rather than me, then I get the grudge on her. She has once told our family members, in front of me, that she wants my kid to be attached to her rather than me. I was hurt with her words. You may think that I’m blaming her. This is the fact and this is how she spoke.

Anyhow let me try chanting the affirmations and let you know.

Naran

What we do normally when we are wounded or hurt. We may grudge, blame, curse dislike and become furious. All these emotions get outside our auric field, get clogged in the atmosphere and influence or affect us because we draw the same energy from the atmosphere.

Moreover constant and consistent undesirable emotions of this type may travel and join similar emotions in the world, paving way for violence, murder etc. Thus, we contribute indirectly to the violent world outside. Do you want to hold on to these emotions?

Another way is just to accept and ignore wherever possible, the comments made by your MIL.

Affirm to yourself, “Hurting others is her (MIL) nature. Loving and becoming lovable (whatever may be the provocation) is my nature”. If you practise this (very difficult), she will also change.

Changing yourself should be your goal. Take it as a challenge.

Do a lot of forgiving exercise. This will give you more power.

Take the remedies. You will understand.

Your past can haunt you

Beware! Your past can come back and haunt you, if you don’t forgive!

Rajan around 45 years became jobless suddenly and he had to search for a new job. He applied for the job in a group company in which he had served earlier for 10 years from the age of 21. Interview was over. He was shortlisted and informed that he can expect the appointment order soon. During the (candidate) verification process, it was found that he had some altercation with his ex-supervisor and resigned. Since he was not given clean chit by his ex-superior, who is still in that company, he could not get his new job.

“Naran, if I had known this earlier. I would have done the forgiving exercise” he told me. I asked him to do the forgiving exercise 101 times a day for the next one month. He did like this, “I Rajan forgive you my ex-boss. Please forgive me and release me”.

He did this for more than 10 days. He was again got a call from his ex-company, but this time from some other division. This time Rajan’s ex-boss gave an ok feedback. Rajan has secured the job successfully.

Can I hold onto my job?

Handling Problems with ‘I am sorry mantra’

Think about the problem or write the problem in a piece of paper and close it with both hands. Then affirm, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love, Thanks, Divine”.  We will come out of the current state of mind. Then the solution will appear automatically and effortlessly as well.

Was about to be fired – a Case History

Sri is a software engineer, who was on the firing list. His manager warned him and told him to somehow get into a project. He chanted the ‘I am sorry’ mantra 20 times twice a day. Within a week they said he needs to go on a business trip to Europe and asked him to get ready for it.

He got worried that he had to go after August 28^th as he had some personal function to attend on August 24th. Again he resorted to the ‘I am sorry’ mantra and he flew to Europe, exactly on August 28^th.

He is now quite convinced that he can handle any problems with ‘I am sorry mantra’.

Forgiveness Pact

Every time we forgive someone,

            We talk the language of God

            We activate our own divine part.

            It also helps others to see us in a new light.

 In addition,

            If there is no forgiveness, then there is no understanding.

            If there is no understanding, then there is no healing.

            If there is no healing, then you will remain incomplete forever.