“Arise Awake and Stop Not Till the Goal is Reached” – Swami Vivekananda
Who is to be blamed if there is no harmony within the family?
In any situation, when one finds oneself opposed, confronted, misunderstood, blamed or being overthrown, one either feels angry or feels depressed or worried.
What is to be tackled here – your mind or him? Everybody wants to change the other person. What is the hidden situation here?
If you want the other person to change, should you not think about changing yourself? Without ourselves changing, we cannot change others.
If there is disharmony then both are responsible for that and both have to change. This is simple logic.
How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life?
- Ask a simple question to yourself. What do I want?
- What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want?
- What behavior of mine or my action will take me – move, towards this goal?
- On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?
If you are 100% sure that your anger or resentment or longing for love, care, affection can take you to harmony or the desired goal, you can have anything.
But once you decide (Itcha Sakthi) that only my endurance or forgiveness can achieve my goal then take the appropriate action (Kriya Sakthi) that is conducive to the goal of harmony, love and understanding.
In other words, your thought, your expression, and your behavior should be conducive towards your goal.
If you think that forgiveness, love and gratitude can achieve this, bring them in your thoughts, expressions and behavior.
The disadvantages of being in a state of victim
The only thing that may interfere in your progress is your ego.
A state of mind which cannot achieve what is desired is a state of victim. Having known that this victim state cannot achieve, why do you hang on to it?
- Not knowing that my state of mind prevents me from achieving my aim is the first blunder.
- Having known that a particular state of mind – victim mentality, cannot achieve what you want and doing nothing about it is the second blunder.
Once you come to know that forgiveness alone, endurance alone, kindness and gratitude alone, can achieve what you want, then go all out for that, with full of courage and moral will.
This is what I meant when I said “BRING IN INTERNAL CHANGE”.
We may fail in the course of time. But don’t be upset over failure. Failure is just a reminder to correct our attitude and move forward.
How to cure the shifted navel please suggest mantras switch words or any other techniques
Who said your navel has shifted? What is the symptom of this?
Nobody has to say this if you don’t know anything about it then say so. Read Devendra Vora’s book and you will understand.
I think you are new to this blog.
I am not treating any physical condition. By naming a condition, we maintain that problem. Whatever be the disease, they manifest as symptoms, which only are important to me.
The physical symptoms are true reflectors of our state of mind. The words you use to describe the symptoms are not mere words. They reflect your life pattern. They vindicate the predominant emotion or thought behind the disease.
The healing mantras or Mudras or switch words I suggest will heal and change the internal mind chemistry.
Once you internally change your outlook on the disease changes. This change in the mind brings in awareness and this awareness allows the inner power to work for the divine order which we term as health.
I am suggesting anything to bring in internal change in people.
You have asked me to read Devendra Vora’s book HEALTH IN YOUR HANDS. He has written books on Mudras, Reflexology. Devendra Vora has concentrated on the physical problems only.
My field is different. I am concerned more about changing the mind.
If anybody wants a genuine answer, he is welcome to this blog. I don’t want people to get angry at what I say.
By being in survival emotions, like anger, worry fear sadness, we cannot achieve anything.
How will one get love and affection by being always in a state of anger?
How will one get happiness by being always in a state of blaming?
How will one get peace by always being in a state of worry?
How will one get harmony by always being in a state of quarrel?
If you get angry with me, you are keeping a bond of anger between yourself and me. This may not be good either to you or me.
If at all there is a bond between me and you, let it be a bond of love; let it a be a bond of healing.
A Story about Happiness and of course Sadness…!!!
His friend asked him, “Why are you sad?”
Mullah replied, “My uncle died a month ago. He has willed his property to me. I just thought about it and feel sad”.
“What a fool you are? He was eighty when he died. Moreover, all his property is yours now. Instead of being happy, why should you feel sad and weep?”
“No! No! The matter is different. Last week, another uncle of mine died and he also has written his property in my name”.
“So what. Now, you should be doubly happy. He is also as old as this uncle. There is nothing to mourn or loathe. Cheer up yourself”.
“Shall I tell you one more thing?”
“Please go ahead”.
“My grand father who was ninety years old died yesterday, after giving Rs. 2 lakhs to me”.
Greatly angered the friend replied, “I don’t understand the reason for your sadness then”.
Wiping his tears, Mullah said, “All my rich relatives had died. Now, there is nobody among my relatives old enough to die and give his property to me”.
This is the mentality of a negative (Bach Flower) Gentian person. His mind is not happy about what he gets. The Gentian mind feels sad about what he has not got.
There is a story about a Zen Master.
The master was making tea.
A person known to him visited him. The Zen Master offered him tea.
Then a stranger visited him. The master offered him tea too.
Watching this, his neighbour asked, why he offered tea to them – for both known and unknown persons.
As a reply to him, the Zen master offered tea to this neighbour too.
A Depressed Patient
June approached Naran S. Balakumar as she was having bouts of depression.
She tapped while she listening to the story of the Zen Master. Within four rounds of tapping, her laughter shook the hall.
Benefits of Listening to Story of Rama’s Pilgrimage to the Forest
- To handle any disappointments and failures in life.
- When you are not able to accept something because of anger, or in general when you are seething with anger/rage/fury, listen to the story and do tapping (EFT).
- When you are worrying too much
- Basically it is a story to accept what is happening to your life. This will bring in mental healing in you, which is very essential to life. Please read the explanation below.
When we suffer we feel why we have to go through it. After going through the bad experiences, we realise what happened was right. Thus behind unhappiness we can find divine order as well as happiness.
Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is the nature of mind. What is painful today may turn out to be pleasure tomorrow.
Therefore, accept totally whatever happens in your life. The mere acceptance will bring in a state of calm – which is essential to plan the next course of action.
Nobody can escape from doing something. Do whatever after accepting it.
A mental state of unhappiness will only bring in more unhappiness. To be happy, accept and be in a happy state, so as to find happiness in the events that occurs outside us.
This story was discussed in the Monthly Meet, April 2009. It is available in CD.