Regarding the solutions you had given me earlier. I did as you said but had a lot of problems with friends and looks like I cannot even talk to her anymore!! Why Naran?
I kept the paper with me and wrote whatever you said and chanted “FIND DIVINE ORDER” throughout too. I don’t know sometimes I wonder if I am doing something wrong or if these words work at all!!
I am also chanting Ambika Slokam, “FIND DIVINE job COUNT NOW DONE” for a job and getting nowhere with anything. Is there any switch words for getting a job and getting friends? I chant WATER VIOLET too whenever I can.
Please can you guide me? Am I doing something wrong? I also chant “FORGIVE LOVE THANK YOU”. I read a lot of the posts and chant a few things that relate to my situation.
When will the words work and produce results Naran? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
There is nothing wrong in your doing.
The only problem we all face is when we want something we hang on to the result so intently that we don’t allow the divine to work and fulfill our desires.
Chanting is the tool. The mind should be on chanting and not on the end result.
One should understand that human beings cannot achieve anything with his own limited knowing.
One should just wish and release it to the divine field for completion.
Your constant worry or anxiety prevents your wish to enter the divine field.
Release all your anxiety and just chant.
When you stop worrying you are detached from the result. This detachment is necessary to understand the work of the divine. That means one detaches to surrender (SAMARPANAM) and prays for the fulfillment.
What is prayer?
Pray, “Oh DIVINE! I ASPIRE, DETACH and SURRENDER. FULFILL if it is THY ORDER”.
Jyothi, Relax! There is time for everything.
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I had been trying out all the mantras and switch words you had suggested to me. I had been religiously taking the remedies you had recommended. Yet I am not seeing the results I want.
I still don’t have a good job. My marriage is in shambles. Neither my parents nor my in-laws are happy about me.
Luckily, I am yet to have kids. Otherwise, I am afraid they will be cursing me too.
My simple question to you is, “Why can’t I be happy and lead a satisfactory life-like others?”
Sorry! I am feeling very skeptical here and feeling much disappointed too.
A Few questions to you first
What is “Thanks”?
What is “Acceptance”?
Why should we accept everything totally – whether what is happening in our life is to our liking or not?
When I am lucky…
I get what I want.
I thank the Divine.
But I forget to pray for others who have not got because of my getting.
When I am not lucky…
But, I am denied.
I feel sad or angry instead of thanking for not getting what I want.
In other words, I am resenting the gift to someone.
This sadness of anger over my not getting is truly resenting others and denying the Divine Order by violating the quantum law: “All is one. One is all”.
Why can’t I be unhappy, when I fail, you may ask?
When I resent or feel sad, I cannot receive when my turn comes (yes! it comes to you one day for sure).
Therefore, when I am denied, I accept and thank god for giving to someone.
I thank God, because my prayers got someone what he wanted.
Denial to me is a gift to someone who needs more than me.
So I Thank the Divine
Let me feel happy about it.
Let me accept it.
With OPEN HEART and QUIET MIND, I ACCEPT and THANK the DIVINE for anything and everything in my life.
I thank when I receive.
I thank when I am denied, while others receive.
So I Thank the Divine in Advance, for one day, my wants will be fulfilled, my prayers will be answered, and I will receive the gifts I desire as I have understood today that my acceptance and attitude of gratitude at any stage will get me everything, when my turn comes.
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(From a telephone conversation)
On one hand, you say our life is pre-destined. On the other hand, you also say we need to heal ourselves. I think, you are contradicting yourself.
As you are calling me, I am trying to fix my scissors, which is broken – one side of it is blunt, and so I am not able to use it. All of us know the fact that both the pieces of scissors are required for it to be useful, as one piece of scissors alone cannot do the job (of cutting).
Likewise, Karma and Free Will are two parts of healing that we have in life. One part alone cannot do the trick.
Healing transforms and changes a person.
Are we not using our free-will in our life?
No. We do every action unconsciously. We feel, think and behave over which we have no control as we feel and behave like a robot. Thus, we are operating from our lower free-will.
Healing uses higher free-will to bring internal change in a person, to effect a conscious behavior. Healing teaches you to choose the empowering emotions to change your attitude to your life. In addition, healing doesn’t alter anything outside of one. It is happening inside us.
What happens when we use our lower free-will?
When we use our lower free-will we are ruled by our emotions. For example, when there is a conflict, we use angry words. How can anger resolve anger (conflict)?
Thus, we add more to our karma, staying in troubled waters. How does somebody who is also in troubled water can save us? Only a person above the water – a person not influenced by his emotions, can help us. Such persons operate from their higher free-will, overcoming Karma and lessening it.
Both Karma and Healing help us learn our life lessons
Karma teaches us some lessons that make us whole and complete. If we don’t learn our lessons, our life is repeated in the same fashion – meaning the same karma in action.
So both, healing and karma do the same job in a different way. Both are required.
If somebody thinks that he can achieve anything in life by healing, he will fail for sure, as he is limited by his karma.
On the other hand, if somebody believes that he is destined to live in a particular way, then he will also fail, as we can heal our karma, by bringing an internal change.
What is an internal change? Internal change is nothing but evolving to ascend.
Thus, both Karma and Higher Free-will are required by us, to make our life whole and complete.
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Reply to Suja by Naran S. Balakumar
Read your mail.
You have not received a job offer yet, in spite of having completed your post-graduation as a rank holder nine months ago. I know that you have done your diploma in Business Management too. Congratulations!
You have mentioned that you are feeling frustrated, dejected, getting angry, as well as blaming god and others for your situation. Given the situation this is the normal reaction we can expect from anyone.
What did you learn in your Management course? One has to think differently to find a solution. Therefore, think differently. Find out whether your thoughts and feelings are energizing you or they are draining you. These feelings will not only keep you in the same state of not getting a job, but will make your life stagnate too.
Get Into the State of Employment
Since you are a mathematics student, I will explain this in the form of a mathematical equation.
X = Y + 10, where X is the event of not getting a job and Y is your present state of mind. You do not have a direct influence over X. But, you can change Y into Y-1 or Y-2., which will in turn affect and change X. I mean, if you change your state of mind (Y), X cannot remain the same. Because Y has changed, X has to change too. Thus a state of unemployment will change into a state of employment.
Utilize the Lean Period
Think differently. You have to utilize this dark period. Accept that this period is necessary for you. May be the learning is not yet over for you. Academically it may be over. But, learning has to be continued. Learn something new in this period. You need not pay for a course. You can pick up lot of stuff from Internet. Learn something more about subjects that are allied to your specialisation. Enjoy the interviews that come your way. You will learn what you don’t know. Fill up those gaps. Learn to listen.
Increase your self-esteem
You can learn a lot by observing people. Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives. Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them. Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial. This will boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job.
Period of Relaxation
This will also make you a better person. You will learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors. When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.
Self-Mastery is the Key
Learn about yourself. Understanding your mental state will be highly beneficial. Write a journal of the emotions you are feeling for one week. Also write about your reactions to events as well as your behavior. Watch your emotions and thought patterns. Put everything in writing. To your surprise, you will find a pattern in your behavior. This is your mental state in the past. This is going to be the mental state for your future if you don’t make changes to yourself. Circumstances may change. Events may change. But this is you.
Fulfillment At last
Therefore, utilize this period to effect a change where necessary. Release what you don’t need and develop more what you need. This self-rectification will help you in self-actualization. Self-actualization is nothing but self-fulfillment in life. Job is offered by god. The employer is only a tool. God is your employer. He will always do what is right and is required by you.
Chant OM NAMO BAGAVATHE.
Best of luck
Naran S Balakumar
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Beware! Your past can come back and haunt you, if you don’t forgive!
Rajan around 45 years became jobless suddenly and he had to search for a new job. He applied for the job in a group company in which he had served earlier for 10 years from the age of 21. Interview was over. He was shortlisted and informed that he can expect the appointment order soon. During the (candidate) verification process, it was found that he had some altercation with his ex-supervisor and resigned. Since he was not given clean chit by his ex-superior, who is still in that company, he could not get his new job.
“Naran, if I had known this earlier. I would have done the forgiving exercise” he told me. I asked him to do the forgiving exercise 101 times a day for the next one month. He did like this, “I Rajan forgive you my ex-boss. Please forgive me and release me”.
He did this for more than 10 days. He was again got a call from his ex-company, but this time from some other division. This time Rajan’s ex-boss gave an ok feedback. Rajan has secured the job successfully.
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The following discussion happened between Kumar and Naran a couple of years back on how to be successful and happy in both family front and work-front.
Even though I am doing well in the job front like getting due recognition and awards for the work done, somehow I do not feel cheerful or happy about anything.
Neither the stuff at home seems to be going in the right direction. My wife is worried about our children because of their indifference and inadequate efforts towards their education and life in general.
I am not in my best of my abilities. Need to get back to Flowers, Reiki and Affirmations. Somehow, I would like to see myself getting back to my rhythm.
Naran S. Balakumar
It is the nature of mind to keep you either down or up. Understand and believe that you are not your mind. Rise up.
We all have taken birth as per the Divine Will and by Divine order.
Our Family, our Friends and our Environment always teach us. Every relationship is a blessing and we have to rise through these relationships. Everybody is there in your life, as per the divine order and we should try to love and heal them and make them come up in the ladder of life. Whether they come up or not it is their choice. Do not have expectations about anybody. Your children will definitely come up in their life – but in their own way.
Fill up your mind with enthusiasm and believe that everything happens as per the divine order. When you believe that whatever happens is not good for you, chant (daily) the Switch Words, ” TOGETHER FIND DIVINE ORDER BE NOW DONE”. This will put you back in life.
Using switch words is nothing but accepting and surrender. We do not know what will happen and we will be surprised at the turn of events after chanting.
Feedback from Kumar
I have started chanting from last night. It was a great feeling of relief and clarity. I read it to my wife and she is chanting too.
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(Continued from Job Scare article, posted two weeks back in this blog)
Balakumar: Narayanan from Hyderabad came and met me today.
Thanks to your statement, “The God has given the job to you, to take care of your material comfort. The company is a channel created by God. He is your employer. When you accept this fact, you will never lose your job.” has changed my attitude.
I have become so confident. Have no more fears about my job. Therefore, I guess I am still in the job. My place is so secure now. I use the same technique in handling some other problems in my life too.
A person got the loan and his sister had to send the security document from US. He is a known customer. Previously on two occasions he kept his word. However, this time unfortunately he could not send the required document even after a delay of more than 20 days.
The pressure from my superiors was so annoying. I just told them, “Be quite. I know how to get the required document. Please allow me to work in a relaxed mood.”
Then I left the whole affair to God and stopped phoning up the customer. The next day, we received the document. The courier misplaced it somewhere. They tracked it and delivered it to us.
The wisdom I gained out of this situation is, “When we give up trying God will help us.”
This is my practical experience. Thanks to you for changing my whole life.
Narayan from Hyderabad came to meet Naran S Balakumar. He is 27 and working in the BPO industry. The reason behind his visit was that he is scared of losing his job. As per the recommendation of his friend Raju, he consulted Balakumar.
Naran S. Balakumar to Narayan
The God has given the job to you, to take care of your material comfort. The company is a channel created by God. He is your employer. When you accept this fact, you will never lose your job.
Even if you lose it, then it is a message from God that a new job is waiting for you out there somewhere. Don’t be afraid, as everything will work out for your good. It’s Divine’s Will.
When you accept this fact whole heartedly, you will never be sitting idle at home, even for a single day. Let us say there is a gap between two jobs then the message from god is, “take rest, and learn something that will be useful for your next job!”
Chant Mimulus* (fear of losing job) and Gentian* (to avoid any regression) and Walnut* (to feel secured) for the next few days. Everything will happen for good.
Narayan said good bye to Naran with a relieved face.
*Please note: Mimulus and Gentian are Bach Flower Remedies. For more details, refer www.naranheal.com