- Reflect on your life.
- Find in what situation you blamed others. Forgive them.
Who is the controller of your life?
Is it me? You cannot control your life. If you fall down you will have to go to the hospital. I do not have control. Then what is the meaning of this statement. When I surrender to the Divinity only, I will take control of my life.
Let us go deeper now. I am not the doer and Divine is the doer. This we will accept lovingly.
Here we have to cultivate the habit that you are not the doer. What happens when I am the doer? Everything will be wrong then. But everything goes right when you think that Divine is the doer. When you think that Divine is the doer, there will be surrender.
A tendency to blame others
We always have the tendency to blame others. We say, “I didn’t have proper sleep because my wife always disturbs me,” When there is no power supply we blame the government. When I am hurt in an accident, we say, “I was properly walking but that auto fellow came and hit me”.
In ordinary life, for each and every situation or event we will be blaming others. Who is spoiling me in my life? When you blame others you have to remember that he is also not the doer. Nobody is responsible for this.
When I am not the doer we happily accept that. When your work is blocked or delayed, the divine is waiting for the right time and he is the doer. When you bring this thinking you can take control of your life.
“My Mother is the cause of my husband’s death”, a case history
One mother and daughter are there. Daughter is married and more than 45 years old, living in a foreign country. About five years back her father expired. The mother has three daughters and all are away.
Mother used to disturb the daughters telling that somebody has to come and look after her. In their caste only the daughter has to look after the mother it seems. I asked the daughter to cut the cord (between the mother and her).
One day, the mother asked the daughter, “Suppose if your husband dies, whether you will come back to me”. The son-in-law died after three months. From then on the daughter could not forgive her mother at all. Whenever she sees her mother she becomes angry. But that lady is a philosophical lady.
The daughter came to me and told that even after taking the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Willow she could not be alright. I told her that Holly and Willow say to you that you have to change your attitude.
When you say that you are not the doer, then you think that your mother is also not the doer. Keep chanting. “I am not the doer, she is not the doer and Divine is the doer”. After chanting this for one hour her heart became lighter. For the next two days she was chanting this and she became completely alright.
Till such time you are blaming others you are not in control of your life. So, whatever may be the problem, think that the Divine is the doer! The problem will be solved automatically. Then only you can take control of your life.
Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.
Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!
I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.
Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.
Do the forgiving exercise for this man.
Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.
Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!
Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).
Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.
You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.
Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.
I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.
I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.
Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace
A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.
I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.
Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).
When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.
Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.
We have left one of our flats for rents. It has one mango tree and another one a coconut tree. In the past, the coconuts have fallen down and broke the windows, thought nobody got hurt. We are worried now that it may hurt the tenant.
We are wondering whether to cut the trees or to put a shed. If we put the shed, then there will be less visibility and air. However, we don’t want the cut the trees, which had been there with us for more than 35 years.
Trees are our life. It provides not just air, but keeps the ground in one place, providing stability of land. Because, so much trees are felled these days, we get earth quakes, Tsunamis and floods as nature is trying to correct the imbalances created by human beings.
In addition, never a coconut will fall directly over a human being, while the dried trunks might fall on us. Arrange a person to remove these trunks once in three months or so.
Trees are our blessings from god. Don’t fell it.
I want to cut a tree which is causing a lot of nuisance
I need some mantra or remedy to cut a tree which is causing a lot of nuisance. Our neighbors are not allowing us to cut it. It is on the road somewhere in between our gate and neighbor’s gate.
The problem is that the dried leaves, branches and many bird droppings fall in our compound. First of all no water in our area and it becomes a problem to clean all these things.
Chant “SWEET CHESTNUT, ROCK ROSE, WILD ROSE” for getting water.
By all means, clean your house of the birds’ excreta, by chanting “WILLOW, CHANGE DIVINE ORDER”.
Don’t fell the tree.
How to cure the shifted navel please suggest mantras switch words or any other techniques
Who said your navel has shifted? What is the symptom of this?
Nobody has to say this if you don’t know anything about it then say so. Read Devendra Vora’s book and you will understand.
I think you are new to this blog.
I am not treating any physical condition. By naming a condition, we maintain that problem. Whatever be the disease, they manifest as symptoms, which only are important to me.
The physical symptoms are true reflectors of our state of mind. The words you use to describe the symptoms are not mere words. They reflect your life pattern. They vindicate the predominant emotion or thought behind the disease.
The healing mantras or Mudras or switch words I suggest will heal and change the internal mind chemistry.
Once you internally change your outlook on the disease changes. This change in the mind brings in awareness and this awareness allows the inner power to work for the divine order which we term as health.
I am suggesting anything to bring in internal change in people.
You have asked me to read Devendra Vora’s book HEALTH IN YOUR HANDS. He has written books on Mudras, Reflexology. Devendra Vora has concentrated on the physical problems only.
My field is different. I am concerned more about changing the mind.
If anybody wants a genuine answer, he is welcome to this blog. I don’t want people to get angry at what I say.
By being in survival emotions, like anger, worry fear sadness, we cannot achieve anything.
How will one get love and affection by being always in a state of anger?
How will one get happiness by being always in a state of blaming?
How will one get peace by always being in a state of worry?
How will one get harmony by always being in a state of quarrel?
If you get angry with me, you are keeping a bond of anger between yourself and me. This may not be good either to you or me.
If at all there is a bond between me and you, let it be a bond of love; let it a be a bond of healing.
What is detoxification?
First let us find out how toxins are formed inside. We are collecting toxins from the environment. What toxins are collected from environment? We collect toxins from air environment, and pollution.
We are so many people sitting here and each of us is collecting something at any point of time. We are all collecting unwanted things. However, we are not able to collect what we want!!! These are all toxins. Whenever 40 – 50 people meet, you will be inhaling toxins.
All the medicines we take are toxins. The food we take is a toxin because even after digestion so many toxins are produced. The body is a chemical factory and whatever we take, has to be converted to glucose. Protein will be used for body building and glucose is the energy. What is blood circulation? The blood circulates in each and every organ and each and every cell takes in oxygen and glucose.
The case with diabetics
Diabetes affected persons will be using vigorously the resources of Pancreas. But liver is very important too. Allopathy never takes care of the liver. They totally ignore it. Liver increases the glucose when carbohydrates are increased in the system. If glucose is in excess, it converts it into glycogen. This conversion cycle of glucose into glycogen has to be done by Pancreas.
People who have sugar problem cannot get over their problem if they are not addressing their liver. Therefore, liver is important enough to be taken care of.
After digestion what happens?
Why is the liver so important? 75% of the blood circulation inside the liver is venous blood, and carbon dioxide blood, which has only toxins. After digestion all the toxins and waste materials will come to liver only. The liver bifurcate the toxins and directs them to kidneys, skin, lungs, and large intestine.
The liver does not function well after taking chemical food, hotel food, and junk food. It starts sagging. Its capacity is reduced.
What happens if the capacity of liver is reduced?
The toxins are bad company and we should not mingle with them. None of us will allow our children to be in the bad company, right? We also will not allow a person, who is not good, to come near us.
What will these toxins do? It circulates in the blood and mixes with the cells and changes the mind of the cell. What is that? It tells the cells, “If you receive any command, do not listen to them”. Toxins are a bad company and it acts like that only.
How tumor is formed?
What process goes on in the body? Every second old cells die and it is replaced by new cells. To enable the process to continue, when the time comes the old cells will receive the command, “You have to die”. The moment certain cells die, four cells come, to dispose of the dead cells. Like when we die four people carry our dead body. The same thing happens inside us. The moment the cell dies then four cells travel to that place, carry the dead cell, and it is excreted through the body.
The old cells, at the time of death, are supposed to receive the command “Die” and they have to die. When there are too much of toxins in the blood, some cells ignore the command or they will act as if they have not received the command. Those old cells, which are ignoring the command, will not die. If those old cells do not die, they will multiply and form into a tumor.
How to let the old cells die?
Now what is the reason for the tumor? The old cells do not receive the command, to perform this process and they will have to be helped. If this process has to go on continuously, (switch word) TOGETHER is the mantra. And we will not know inside our body, whether the old cells have died or not. So how to take these cells which do not die and what is the switch word for this?
We have to give the command “Die” to the old undead cells, if there is any. These are the ones which form into benign tumor or cancer.
For cancer, “CONCEDE CLEAR CENTRE CANCEL OLD Undead Cells FIND New Cells”. This has to be chanted daily many number times. By this you are giving the command to your own body.
CANCEL means to delete, to destroy, and to put an end. CANCEL is a very important word for destroying the tumor and cancer cells.
For more detailed explanation on Why we need to forgive others and How to forgive others, please refer the book: “Forgiveness How and Why”, written by Naran S. Balakumar.
I have a problem letting go or forgiving people. Is there any switch word for it?
If you don’t do the forgiving exercise, you will undergo same emotions, even though situations may be different.
If you do not want to meet or interact with same people in future, Forgiving is the only way.
There is no shortcut for letting go the resentment and anger.
Do not act from ego; have higher perception and think that every event in our life is happening as per our desire. Before taking the birth, I want this life with these people to mend my life. But unfortunately after taking birth, we forget our commitment. When the situation is created as per our desire, instead of learning lessons and moving forward, we get stuck and we refuse to forget or forgive.
What is the one that prevents you from forgiving? Release that and do it.
I Jay forgive you —–(name of the person). You please forgive me and release me. This can be done mechanically without the involvement of the heart.
Do I just have to fill the name or action that upsets me?
“I Jay forgive you —–(name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.
Take a person with whom you are angry. Insert his or her name in the space given above. Chant the same for 200 times a day.
Affirm, “I (your name) Robert forgive you Ashok (replace with name of the person to be forgiven). You please forgive me and release me”.
This can be done mechanically without the involvement of the heart.
Write a list of persons with whom you are angry. Take one person out of that list. Insert his or her name in the affirmation given above. Chant the same for 200 times a day.
Questions regarding Forgiveness Exercise
I have two queries related to Forgiving exercise.
I have too many people to forgive in my life, so please guide me how to forgive them with once for all.
I see my husband is having so much resentment in his life with so many people but he doesn’t try to do any of the exercise to forgive and forget. So is there anything I can do on behalf of him, as it’s affecting my life all the time.
- Take a list of all of them. Do the forgiving for all. Take one at a time. Chant 200 times for each.
- You cannot do anything for somebody’s sake. What is your predominant thought or emotion when you deal with him? Release that one by one. If one goes, another will come. Release that also.
I have polycystic ovaries problem. I am taking homeopathy medicine for that. Can I try something else to speed up the process of recovery?
In addition, I have lots of negative thinking. I always keep thinking about health and have a great fear of diseases. This started two years back. Because of this even if I have a small symptom, I Google and scare myself that I have some big disease.
After reading your blogs I found Mimulus is a probable remedy. I started chanting the remedy yesterday but my right thigh started having tingling sensation. What does this signify?
What can I do to become a positive person and not keep thinking about health?
You can take Mimulus daily, three pills, six times in a day. It is a Bach flower remedy available in all homeopathy shops.
A tingling sensation in thighs means “Ignore and move ahead. Have faith in the universe”.
What is the difference between fear and faith? Fear tells you that something bad is going to happen. Faith tells you that something good will happens. Convert your fear into faith.