My husband has been having extra marital affairs with many women (about 14 to date) for the past 12 years. He gets into a rage when I question him. He sees 3 women on diff days. He makes me miserable and depressed.
He runs his own business. All his customers/friends cover up and book the hotels on their name for him. He tells me he is at a meeting but goes and sleeps with women.
He has divorced me last year and blames me all the time but we are living together for my kids’ sake. He compares me to other women and makes me insecure. He tells me that he can find many super models and sleep with them and I can’t do anything because we are divorced.
I got nothing; I resigned from work last year because I had a nervous breakdown. He is having a complete makeover even to the extent of skin whitening. My in-laws hate me and they’ve been doing black magic to me because they want everything I worked hard for. They are responsible for him being that way. They encourage him to do wrong and they turn my kids against me. My mother-in-law puts things in the food for us to fight but my ex doesn’t see it.
I pray so hard for all those women to get caught with him but I feel I’m not winning. All I want is my husband, kids, peace and happiness back. He must stop sleeping around. Pls help me.
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
“Will I not win?” Win yourself first. Win your emotions and thoughts first. Evolve with higher emotions. You will win.
Life is not a war to win or lose. Life is love – giving and receiving – transaction of love. Give even when you don’t receive. Think anything as an issue to be handled with love. Bring peace to the war going on within.
This alone will help you. Concentrate on something else.
Chant “QUIET MIND, OPEN HEART, RELAX”, daily 1000 times.
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There is a story about a Zen Master.
The master was making tea.
A person known to him visited him. The Zen Master offered him tea.
Then a stranger visited him. The master offered him tea too.
Watching this, his neighbour asked, why he offered tea to them – for both known and unknown persons.
As a reply to him, the Zen master offered tea to this neighbour too.
A Depressed Patient
June approached Naran S. Balakumar as she was having bouts of depression.
She tapped while she listening to the story of the Zen Master. Within four rounds of tapping, her laughter shook the hall.
Benefits of Listening to Story of Rama’s Pilgrimage to the Forest
- To handle any disappointments and failures in life.
- When you are not able to accept something because of anger, or in general when you are seething with anger/rage/fury, listen to the story and do tapping (EFT).
- When you are worrying too much
- Basically it is a story to accept what is happening to your life. This will bring in mental healing in you, which is very essential to life. Please read the explanation below.
When we suffer we feel why we have to go through it. After going through the bad experiences, we realise what happened was right. Thus behind unhappiness we can find divine order as well as happiness.
Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is the nature of mind. What is painful today may turn out to be pleasure tomorrow.
Therefore, accept totally whatever happens in your life. The mere acceptance will bring in a state of calm – which is essential to plan the next course of action.
Nobody can escape from doing something. Do whatever after accepting it.
A mental state of unhappiness will only bring in more unhappiness. To be happy, accept and be in a happy state, so as to find happiness in the events that occurs outside us.
This story was discussed in the Monthly Meet, April 2009. It is available in CD.
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