Inappropriate Love

Grace

Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.

Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!

I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.

Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for this man.

Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.

Grace

Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!

Naran

Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).

Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.

You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.

Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.

Grace

I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.

I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.

Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace

Naran

A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.

I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.

Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).

When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.

Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.

My student is suffering from knee stiffness

One of my students, aged 59 years, is suffering from severe knee stiffness on her right knee. Sometimes it shifts to left knee too.

She has already learnt Reiki in Bombay. She has also learnt pranic healing.

Which mantra, or which Bach Flower Remedy can be given to her. She is already taking allopathic medicine. Can you please suggest?

Ganga Eswaran

There is an Ayurvedic product Danvantri Kulambu, sold in Ayurvedic shops. Ask her to apply it, daily on the knees and wash it with hot water after half an hour.

In addition, she needs to do the following:

1. Knees: (ask her to question within herself) in which areas of life she is inflexible?

Love is more important than any principles.

Let her chant, “Let divine love manifest within and around me”.

2. Let her take Bach flower remedies “ROCK WATER WALNUT HORNBEAM”.

3. Ask her to extend her thanks to her parents.

If she does not have good relationship with her parents, ask her to do the forgiving exercise.

Naran

Explanation

Rock Water: to reduce stubbornness and be flexible. Instead of living by principles alone, lead the life with Love

Walnut: move on with life, instead of getting stuck up with something or some emotion

Knees: will get affected if we have issues with parents. Issue with Mother will affect left knee and issue with father will affect right knee.

Refer this link to know more on how body is affected by our emotions and thoughts: http://healbymindbodymessages.wordpress.com/

Forgiveness Exercise: if you (Raju) have to forgive your mother then affirm, “I Raju forgive you my mother.  Please forgive me and release me”. Please note that this will release the anger about the concern person and not the relationship itself.

Stories for Life Part 3: Rama and Zen Tea

Zen Tea

There is a story about a Zen Master.

The master was making tea.

A person known to him visited him. The Zen Master offered him tea.

Then a stranger visited him. The master offered him tea too.

Watching this, his neighbour asked, why he offered tea to them – for both known and unknown persons.

As a reply to him, the Zen master offered tea to this neighbour too.

A Depressed Patient

June approached Naran S. Balakumar as she was having bouts of depression.

She tapped while she listening to the story of the Zen Master. Within four rounds of tapping, her laughter shook the hall.

Benefits of Listening to Story of Rama’s Pilgrimage to the Forest

1. To handle any disappointments and failures in life.
2. When you are not able to accept something because of anger, or in general when you are seething with anger/rage/fury, listen to the story and do tapping (EFT).
3. When you are worrying too much
4. Basically it is a story to accept what is happening to your life. This will bring in mental healing in you, which is very essential to life. Please read the explanation below.

When we suffer we feel why we have to go through it. After going through the bad experiences, we realise what  happened was right. Thus behind unhappiness we can find divine order as well as happiness.

Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is the nature of mind. What is painful today may turn out to be pleasure tomorrow.

Therefore, accept totally whatever happens in your life. The  mere acceptance will bring in a state of calm – which is essential   to plan the next course of action.

Nobody can escape from doing something. Do whatever after  accepting it.

A mental state of unhappiness will only bring in more  unhappiness. To be happy, accept and be in a happy state, so as to find happiness in the events that occurs outside us.

This story was discussed in the Monthly Meet, April 2009. It is available in CD.