Why can’t I be happy?
Posted by Elsol
I had been trying out all the mantras and switch words you had suggested to me. I had been religiously taking the remedies you had recommended. Yet I am not seeing the results I want.
I still don’t have a good job. My marriage is in shambles. Neither my parents nor my in-laws are happy about me.
Luckily, I am yet to have kids. Otherwise, I am afraid they will be cursing me too.
My simple question to you is, “Why can’t I be happy and lead a satisfactory life-like others?”
Sorry! I am feeling very skeptical here and feeling much disappointed too.
A Few questions to you first
What is “Thanks”?
What is “Acceptance”?
Why should we accept everything totally – whether what is happening in our life is to our liking or not?
When I am lucky…
I get what I want.
I thank the Divine.
But I forget to pray for others who have not got because of my getting.
When I am not lucky…
But, I am denied.
I feel sad or angry instead of thanking for not getting what I want.
In other words, I am resenting the gift to someone.
This sadness of anger over my not getting is truly resenting others and denying the Divine Order by violating the quantum law: “All is one. One is all”.
Why can’t I be unhappy, when I fail, you may ask?
When I resent or feel sad, I cannot receive when my turn comes (yes! it comes to you one day for sure).
Therefore, when I am denied, I accept and thank god for giving to someone.
I thank God, because my prayers got someone what he wanted.
Denial to me is a gift to someone who needs more than me.
So I Thank the Divine
Let me feel happy about it.
Let me accept it.
With OPEN HEART and QUIET MIND, I ACCEPT and THANK the DIVINE for anything and everything in my life.
I thank when I receive.
I thank when I am denied, while others receive.
So I Thank the Divine in Advance, for one day, my wants will be fulfilled, my prayers will be answered, and I will receive the gifts I desire as I have understood today that my acceptance and attitude of gratitude at any stage will get me everything, when my turn comes.
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Karma Vs Free Will
Posted by Elsol
(From a telephone conversation)
On one hand, you say our life is pre-destined. On the other hand, you also say we need to heal ourselves. I think, you are contradicting yourself.
As you are calling me, I am trying to fix my scissors, which is broken – one side of it is blunt, and so I am not able to use it. All of us know the fact that both the pieces of scissors are required for it to be useful, as one piece of scissors alone cannot do the job (of cutting).
Likewise, Karma and Free Will are two parts of healing that we have in life. One part alone cannot do the trick.
Healing transforms and changes a person.
Are we not using our free-will in our life?
No. We do every action unconsciously. We feel, think and behave over which we have no control as we feel and behave like a robot. Thus, we are operating from our lower free-will.
Healing uses higher free-will to bring internal change in a person, to effect a conscious behavior. Healing teaches you to choose the empowering emotions to change your attitude to your life. In addition, healing doesn’t alter anything outside of one. It is happening inside us.
What happens when we use our lower free-will?
When we use our lower free-will we are ruled by our emotions. For example, when there is a conflict, we use angry words. How can anger resolve anger (conflict)?
Thus, we add more to our karma, staying in troubled waters. How does somebody who is also in troubled water can save us? Only a person above the water – a person not influenced by his emotions, can help us. Such persons operate from their higher free-will, overcoming Karma and lessening it.
Both Karma and Healing help us learn our life lessons
Karma teaches us some lessons that make us whole and complete. If we don’t learn our lessons, our life is repeated in the same fashion – meaning the same karma in action.
So both, healing and karma do the same job in a different way. Both are required.
If somebody thinks that he can achieve anything in life by healing, he will fail for sure, as he is limited by his karma.
On the other hand, if somebody believes that he is destined to live in a particular way, then he will also fail, as we can heal our karma, by bringing an internal change.
What is an internal change? Internal change is nothing but evolving to ascend.
Thus, both Karma and Higher Free-will are required by us, to make our life whole and complete.
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