Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
There is always a saying that marriages are made in heaven. Is that true?
And if so then why there is negativity like divorce, extramarital, and even more than that?
I am very much afraid of this issue as it’s a lifelong decision and relationship.
Is there any switch word which all can chant to have a successful, happy and respected marital life either love or arranged.
Any switch words that can keep harmony not only in couple but also between two families because sometimes we see that due to family distances, fights arise.
And also anything after which there should not be any regression about marriage decision?
I know you are the only one who can clear my questions and hope so many people wants know it.
Fear is hallucination.
Fearing about something is happening in the mind only.
The mind is unable to perceive the future and therefore indulges in thoughts that produce fear.
Instead of becoming inquisitive, the mind pushes you in fear or in darkness.
What is this fear? Fear manifests the very same event which we do not want.
Understand that every emotion has got individual consciousness.
Fear is born because future is unknown. Anything unknown is darkness. Darkness – fear – will be no more, when there is light.
When the fear appears, think that it needs light. Say, “Fear SET FREE, OPEN, ALIGN yourself with the LIGHT and RELAX me.”
Read again and again all the answers and blog postings and meditate on each and every answer.
You will know everything that you need to know.
Too much of thoughts – unwanted thoughts – obsess you and you have forgotten to listen. Listening happens when we become silent and Truth will reveal itself when we introspect.
It is not my reply but your understanding is more important.
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Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
My husband has been having extra marital affairs with many women (about 14 to date) for the past 12 years. He gets into a rage when I question him. He sees 3 women on diff days. He makes me miserable and depressed.
He runs his own business. All his customers/friends cover up and book the hotels on their name for him. He tells me he is at a meeting but goes and sleeps with women.
He has divorced me last year and blames me all the time but we are living together for my kids’ sake. He compares me to other women and makes me insecure. He tells me that he can find many super models and sleep with them and I can’t do anything because we are divorced.
I got nothing; I resigned from work last year because I had a nervous breakdown. He is having a complete makeover even to the extent of skin whitening. My in-laws hate me and they’ve been doing black magic to me because they want everything I worked hard for. They are responsible for him being that way. They encourage him to do wrong and they turn my kids against me. My mother-in-law puts things in the food for us to fight but my ex doesn’t see it.
I pray so hard for all those women to get caught with him but I feel I’m not winning. All I want is my husband, kids, peace and happiness back. He must stop sleeping around. Pls help me.
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
“Will I not win?” Win yourself first. Win your emotions and thoughts first. Evolve with higher emotions. You will win.
Life is not a war to win or lose. Life is love – giving and receiving – transaction of love. Give even when you don’t receive. Think anything as an issue to be handled with love. Bring peace to the war going on within.
This alone will help you. Concentrate on something else.
Chant “QUIET MIND, OPEN HEART, RELAX”, daily 1000 times.
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