I tried every other thing that you suggested to move to Singapore but things did not work out.
I understand that God has his own way of doing things that is always for my highest good. Now, given our situation, even though we want to move to India, a part of me tells me to leave it to God and let him guide us.
How do I go about leaving things to God and wanting events to unfold according to Divine will?
Chant or write daily 51 times:
“I align with the part of me which surrenders and accepts Divine order”.
“I release the part of me which wants to control any event, resisting the divine order”.
Read the related blogs –
To SURRENDER is to win the battle of life: http://wp.me/ptUDX-2T
Head above the Day-to-day Concerns of life: http://wp.me/ptUDX-1f
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Understand the messages with the help of Bach Flower Remedies
Take Bach Flower Remedies VERVAIN and HEATHER to understand those messages.
Put the pills of Vervain and Heather in a bottle of water. Take it with you.
Visit your neighboring park and with a research attitude note down all the words that you hear.
Sip the water now and then.
All words that you have captured, will give you a beautiful meaning to your life.
Alternatively, go to a temple and listen to the conversations that are going around.
Do this exercise, once in two months.
There are always three view points to an event
An event can be in the form of an incident or a conversation that we overhear or behavior of a person that we are attracted to and notice.
For an event, there can be three different viewpoints about it.
One is ours. When we analyze from our viewpoint, then it will be termed as a judgment about the event.
When we analyze from other man’s point of view, then it will be termed as an understanding of the event.
Finally, the third perspective would be the viewpoint of the divinity that’s expressed through the event.
The last viewpoint is the subject of our discussion.
Why we need to know divine messages behind an event?
There will be a lesson waiting for us, on how we should think and act, so that our journey moves towards divinity. To do that, we have to observe our life as a third person.
These divine messages also can come from children or sometimes even at the sight of a bird or an animal.
Do a bit of an analysis
If we listen dispassionately to a conversation that falls into our ears, there will be a divine message waiting for us.
Though, we have to do a bit of analysis and dig that message out.
Do that by asking the question – what is the divine message waiting for me here to be unraveled?
Analyzing like this is nothing but a form of meditation.
This helps us to go deeper within one self, making the mind travel within.
In general, the mind has the tendency to go out. But this exercise helps us to take it the reverse direction.
Therefore, a dispassionate observation is a must for us to follow.
Let you be guided by divine messages every day in every way
Divine message guides us in every way.
Daily seeking the message of God and keeping a Spiritual Journal is necessary.
This will help us to understand the messages delivered by god and direct us in various ways during the course of our lives.
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An exercise to get the best – taken from the book – “I Love Myself’ Workbook
Ask the questions…
1. What is your purchase behavior?
2. Do you go for cheap and best?
3. Or only for the best?
Analyze your attitudes behind your purchasing habits
The funny thing is both are opposites. If you want something cheaper then you won’t get the best. Likewise, if you want the best then you won’t get it cheap either.
When will you deserve best?
I deserve the best means then you should not be influenced by anybody else’s decision. When will “I deserve the best” happen?
First, you have to find out when you give something, whether you give it without any inhibition.
4. Ask the question before you give, “Am I giving this without any inhibition?”
We discriminate in our treatment to others
When we attend a wedding, we give some presentation. Whatever we have in our house, we pack it and give it. There is so much inhibition in giving what we have received from somebody else.
Even there we may differentiate from one person to another. Like for example, we might have decided in the mind that this should be given to Mr. A, while we should give something else to Mrs. B. We also quantify while giving, like so much to Mr. A and so much to Mrs. B.
However, we should not do either of them.
Why we don’t deserve the best
Suppose we have some costly item like a silver vessel. We think that it may cost Rs.1000. But, when you weigh the vessel, we find the value to be Rs.5000. So we think this person does not deserve this much costly and therefore we will buy him something else. If these behaviors are present in us then we will not get the best and we do not deserve the best.
How to be deserving for the best
While giving, you must give with full heart. These are the tests given by the Divine. If someone asks money we must give it. But at that time we may not have so much money. At that time you may not be in a position to give him money. Then give him Reiki.
The beggar is not asking for the money, but the divine is…
The beggar may beg for some money from you. The auto driver may demand money from you. There is no difference between the two. If he asks Rs.150 for a trip then give him as the Universe wants the money to go from your hand. Instead, if you hold the amount, eventually you may have to spend 10 times the money in a different way.
Whenever it has to be given, give it. It is not the auto driver who is asking the money, it is not the beggar who is begging for the money. On the other hand, to balance between receiving and giving the Universe is asking from you.
If you develop this kind of attitude, giving will not become prohibitive to you. You will give easily and there will not be any blocks inside you.
Giving on a No-cost Basis
If we have to give at any cost then we can send Reiki by chanting “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE”.
However, do not allow others to exploit you
Giving does not mean that you should allow others to cheat you. If someone asks for donation, use your discretion. For paying the auto driver, when you travel occasionally by auto, then do not fight with him, but give him whatever he demands.
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My husband has been having extra marital affairs with many women (about 14 to date) for the past 12 years. He gets into a rage when I question him. He sees 3 women on diff days. He makes me miserable and depressed.
He runs his own business. All his customers/friends cover up and book the hotels on their name for him. He tells me he is at a meeting but goes and sleeps with women.
He has divorced me last year and blames me all the time but we are living together for my kids’ sake. He compares me to other women and makes me insecure. He tells me that he can find many super models and sleep with them and I can’t do anything because we are divorced.
I got nothing; I resigned from work last year because I had a nervous breakdown. He is having a complete makeover even to the extent of skin whitening. My in-laws hate me and they’ve been doing black magic to me because they want everything I worked hard for. They are responsible for him being that way. They encourage him to do wrong and they turn my kids against me. My mother-in-law puts things in the food for us to fight but my ex doesn’t see it.
I pray so hard for all those women to get caught with him but I feel I’m not winning. All I want is my husband, kids, peace and happiness back. He must stop sleeping around. Pls help me.
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
“Will I not win?” Win yourself first. Win your emotions and thoughts first. Evolve with higher emotions. You will win.
Life is not a war to win or lose. Life is love – giving and receiving – transaction of love. Give even when you don’t receive. Think anything as an issue to be handled with love. Bring peace to the war going on within.
This alone will help you. Concentrate on something else.
Chant “QUIET MIND, OPEN HEART, RELAX”, daily 1000 times.
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(From a telephone conversation)
On one hand, you say our life is pre-destined. On the other hand, you also say we need to heal ourselves. I think, you are contradicting yourself.
As you are calling me, I am trying to fix my scissors, which is broken – one side of it is blunt, and so I am not able to use it. All of us know the fact that both the pieces of scissors are required for it to be useful, as one piece of scissors alone cannot do the job (of cutting).
Likewise, Karma and Free Will are two parts of healing that we have in life. One part alone cannot do the trick.
Healing transforms and changes a person.
Are we not using our free-will in our life?
No. We do every action unconsciously. We feel, think and behave over which we have no control as we feel and behave like a robot. Thus, we are operating from our lower free-will.
Healing uses higher free-will to bring internal change in a person, to effect a conscious behavior. Healing teaches you to choose the empowering emotions to change your attitude to your life. In addition, healing doesn’t alter anything outside of one. It is happening inside us.
What happens when we use our lower free-will?
When we use our lower free-will we are ruled by our emotions. For example, when there is a conflict, we use angry words. How can anger resolve anger (conflict)?
Thus, we add more to our karma, staying in troubled waters. How does somebody who is also in troubled water can save us? Only a person above the water – a person not influenced by his emotions, can help us. Such persons operate from their higher free-will, overcoming Karma and lessening it.
Both Karma and Healing help us learn our life lessons
Karma teaches us some lessons that make us whole and complete. If we don’t learn our lessons, our life is repeated in the same fashion – meaning the same karma in action.
So both, healing and karma do the same job in a different way. Both are required.
If somebody thinks that he can achieve anything in life by healing, he will fail for sure, as he is limited by his karma.
On the other hand, if somebody believes that he is destined to live in a particular way, then he will also fail, as we can heal our karma, by bringing an internal change.
What is an internal change? Internal change is nothing but evolving to ascend.
Thus, both Karma and Higher Free-will are required by us, to make our life whole and complete.
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