Category Archives: Affirmations
- Reflect on your life.
- Find in what situation you blamed others. Forgive them.
Who is the controller of your life?
Is it me? You cannot control your life. If you fall down you will have to go to the hospital. I do not have control. Then what is the meaning of this statement. When I surrender to the Divinity only, I will take control of my life.
Let us go deeper now. I am not the doer and Divine is the doer. This we will accept lovingly.
Here we have to cultivate the habit that you are not the doer. What happens when I am the doer? Everything will be wrong then. But everything goes right when you think that Divine is the doer. When you think that Divine is the doer, there will be surrender.
A tendency to blame others
We always have the tendency to blame others. We say, “I didn’t have proper sleep because my wife always disturbs me,” When there is no power supply we blame the government. When I am hurt in an accident, we say, “I was properly walking but that auto fellow came and hit me”.
In ordinary life, for each and every situation or event we will be blaming others. Who is spoiling me in my life? When you blame others you have to remember that he is also not the doer. Nobody is responsible for this.
When I am not the doer we happily accept that. When your work is blocked or delayed, the divine is waiting for the right time and he is the doer. When you bring this thinking you can take control of your life.
“My Mother is the cause of my husband’s death”, a case history
One mother and daughter are there. Daughter is married and more than 45 years old, living in a foreign country. About five years back her father expired. The mother has three daughters and all are away.
Mother used to disturb the daughters telling that somebody has to come and look after her. In their caste only the daughter has to look after the mother it seems. I asked the daughter to cut the cord (between the mother and her).
One day, the mother asked the daughter, “Suppose if your husband dies, whether you will come back to me”. The son-in-law died after three months. From then on the daughter could not forgive her mother at all. Whenever she sees her mother she becomes angry. But that lady is a philosophical lady.
The daughter came to me and told that even after taking the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Willow she could not be alright. I told her that Holly and Willow say to you that you have to change your attitude.
When you say that you are not the doer, then you think that your mother is also not the doer. Keep chanting. “I am not the doer, she is not the doer and Divine is the doer”. After chanting this for one hour her heart became lighter. For the next two days she was chanting this and she became completely alright.
Till such time you are blaming others you are not in control of your life. So, whatever may be the problem, think that the Divine is the doer! The problem will be solved automatically. Then only you can take control of your life.
Two people are quarrelling.
When I witness that I get disturbed. Address the disturbance.
You cannot change anybody. You cannot change even an iota of a person. He is made by God. How can we change him?
What is the disturbance you have? As per the disturbance you take either the Bach flower remedy or chant the mantras or chant the switch words or heal yourself by doing Mudras.
If you want these two persons not to quarrel then the (internal) disturbances caused by these two people must be addressed first.
There is nothing called external factors. All these things are internal factors, which are reflecting outside. We must be very sure about this.
Even if do not succeed we have to go on try.
Whatever disturbance you have, you heal that. No other tool like shadow self meditation is required. Instead, just address the mind.
Whatever may be your reaction, come out of the reaction. To come out of the reaction affirm, “I accept myself totally”. Whatever comes in your mind, you keep on release them.
Some time ago I explained to you about some sexual harassment that I was suffering, from near my home. You asked me to forgive them and it worked. They are no longer around blocking my path.
Unfortunately now – post clearing resistance to love – one of them has decided he is in love with me. Naran please help me I do not want this!
I feel like this may have been why I originally created the tendency not to receive love from people to avoid unwanted advances. This man is too old for me and not at all what I had in mind.
Please help me! I do not want to receive love from inappropriate places. I want to continue to be open to receiving love that does not make me feel bad.
Do the forgiving exercise for this man.
Say “I thank you old man for keeping away from me” three times daily.
Okay. I will do. What is the root cause of this? I feel I am always in this type of situation. It makes me become a separatist. I’m tired of it!
Grace, let us NOT think about why this is happening (and allow our ego to play games).
Heal as and when the situation arises. Release all your anger and resentment.
You can take a paper and write down your anger stories. Go on writing without reading what you wrote. Burn the paper or dip the paper in water and tear it.
Do the same for the second day and so on, until you feel that there is nothing to write.
I want to let you know that the man who was bothering me has lessened his advances. This is unprecedented. I will continue to thank and forgive until it stops.
I have not yet done the writing out exercise but I will try soon. Step by step everything is working.
Purpose of giving the forgiving exercise to Grace
A couple of questions had come to me asking why they should ask for forgiveness, when others have done the mistake.
I hope the above story will convince you now. Anyway, I will offer some explanation here.
Don’t take any words literally (I will post few articles on this topic).
When we do the forgiving exercise, we break off from our problem situation.
Otherwise, our thoughts and feelings about the situation – I mean our connection to the problem situation, will sustain it further.
I have realized the more I ask for, be it from you (I asked for a job, family harmony, curing skin issues) or simply from God, it has always been granted to me. I am really grateful for it. Sometimes I think God has me in his special list.
However, now I feel guilty. It’s like some loop of desires. Now I want to get married to a wonderful, understanding and loving husband. After I get that I will want a child. Then it will be her/his education, desires, life, and money.
I thought life’s aim is to be detached from the world and arise out of all the attachments. And what I seek is totally different from what I ask for. If I keep asking and one day if I don’t get it, will be the reason for my sorrow. So finally my search for happiness will drive me to sorrow, isn’t it?
I want to give up all attachments and live and enjoy in this world at the same time. I don’t understand my path of life.
I need guidance. Please help! You are one person who I truly revere. I sometimes wonder how you have so much patience to read and reply to so many queries. Everyone here is always asking, and always wanting things. I don’t blame them. You provide solutions which work. It gives all of us high hopes, a ray of light!!!
If we think that everything is provided by God and thank him with the open heart daily, we will get inordinate joy.
Whatever is good, he will give it to me. If anything is not needed, he will deny it. If we think in this manner, there is no sorrow.
By thanking him or by adoring him we are not adding up even 1% to his divinity. But, wondering at the way the Divine field operates and thanking for everything, will make us content.
Your greatest teacher is living within your heart.
Every day, in the morning say, “I OPEN and ALIGN myself – all parts of my consciousness – with the GRACE of DIVINE LOVE, BEAUTY, and HARMONY”.
Just close your eyes and start thanking what happened on the previous day.
A nice question!!!
Best of luck!
I have a general question. Ladies is facing plenty of problems in life from childhood. Gents are also facing but less compared to ladies.
From childhood a girl should be safe in all areas of life. If married responsibilities increases.
Also, hearing bad words under circumstances, if marriage is delayed, child-birth is delayed. Society will say that a girl is unlucky.
I have said only examples and many more are there. For example, at the age of 45 also a boy is married as a first marriage / second marriage. But, in case of ladies how many are ready to marry a girl at the age of 45, for the same first marriage/second marriage.
Is it a curse to be born as a girl? Girls are equal to boys and studying well, earning etc. But, in particular cases enjoying less freedom in the society, compared to boys.
Just remembering these words of Mahatma Gandhi: “We get full independence only when a girl can walk in the midnight wearing plenty of jewels and safe in all aspects”.
After so many years of independence also it has not been fulfilled. Tomorrow is an Independence Day (for India) and hence this question.
Why should I see and feel sorry for the problems? Or why don’t I see the good in the same society and feel happy.
Whatever is happening in the world is just an event. We judge any event by categorizing it as bad or good.
We are not taught to see good in bad too.
When anything happens to our dislike or when anything disturbs our peace, fill up that event with love by just chanting “FORGIVE LOVE THANK TOGETHER BE DIVINE”.
Forgiving the person will make you think that every person is directed by the Divine will. If every person is directed by God, why should I meddle with the divine will? I extend my love to him. If I can send the energy of love from the heart which is open because of forgiveness, I thank the Divine for this revelation – new thinking.
Thanking any person – a state of gratitude – unites your mind with the Divine. You will BE one with the Divine flow – TOGETHER BE DIVINE and be blessed.